Has anyone ever self referred to social services?

[ProteusmarkII]

17 year old here in serious need of help but discharged himself from CAHMS recently and won't return.

I found messages that talked about suicide last week and am on the verge of doing a self referral to Social Services, because they will get involved and CAHMS won't unless teen self refers.

Has anyone done that?

I feel like I need a bit of help as I don't know how to deal with it anymore.
I'm the really bad guy, XP is currently a Demi god. Nothing I do or say is right. At this point I figure what is the worst that can happen? Social Services insist they don't live with me?

The lies (often about me), twisting things, ranting, nastiness and generally vile behaviour towards me is really getting me down. If the things that are written about me were true and reported there is no doubt that SS would intervene. They're not true, I'm in a safeguarding role at work and feel like I should seek help.

XP is a nasty piece of work, I am no contact, but he fuels a lot of it, not much I can do about that. XP doesn't want teen full time otherwise they'd love to live with him to escape my 'boring existence'. Teen refuses to sit in the same room as me, refuses to go anywhere or do anything with me, not out to eat or for a walk/day out. Does all these things and more with XP.

I'm at the end of my rope with it all tbh, but if someone gave me the information about me that is the story told by my teen I'd be contacting someone.

Yes I have.

I didn't read your OP, BUT, you absolutely can self-refer. It was the best thing I ever did.

Good luck.

I've been in your position and it's so bloody heartbreaking ,

I'm self referring today to protect myself as my dd aged 14 is in an abusive relationship and I'm worried she will throw me under the bus to protect bf / abuser if anyone challenges her .

I also held s senior role in safeguarding and worked in childrens services so I know how difficult this is .

@SpookyActionAtADistance

Can I ask what outcome you achieved that makes you say if was the best thing you did ?

Yes. It actually made SS help my daughter. She was permanently excluded at the age of six. We self-educated for nearly two years but it wasn't working.

Which is when I self-referred. I begged for help.

And I got it.

It helped that the social worker I got, I got on very well with. And we had TAF that I also got on well with.

I think the think to acknowledge is that SS are there to help you, and they WILL help you if you're open to the process.

And she got an ASD diagnosis at 8, which is quite young for a female.

You need to bother people and also have them on your side.

@ProteusmarkII I've had a read of your OP.

PLEASE self-refer. Be open. Be honest. You will get help. It's the best thing you can do for your son.

Do not take no for an answer.

Thanks so much Spooky, lots of similarities.

I don't know what TAF is.

We didn't self-refer but SS were called when stepson harmed himself and blamed it on dad. Since then he support has been good, but they are very low on staff and time so can only do so much. But, sounds like your situation is one that might be given a much higher priority. We have a social worker who takes stepson out once a week, as he refuses any sort of counselling.The school have also been very supportive eventually! Best of luck, there is help out there, you sometimes just have to be persistant, unfortunately it's a case of she who shouts loudest gets the most help