Teen Dating

[Kiki105]

I've just discovered that my 18 year old DD is dating a 28 year old man and feel the gap is too great at her age. Little I go do to stop it I know but would like to hear from those that have been through this with their DD.

I met my DH when I was 17 and he was 28. The age difference was remarked upon by others, but we were not bothered by their comments. We're still together 40 years later.

Your DD is an adult and can date who she likes. I'd be more concerned with his character than his age.

She's not actually told me about him yet, she dropped it into a conversation while out with my mum the other day and so of course my mum told me. I've had my suspicions she's been seeing someone as she's been staying out overnight the last few weekends. Of course I can't judge this fella until I get to meet him but I think most mums would worry. She's always out and we never seem to have quality time together to chat as much as I try.

It's lovely it worked out for you

Mark1Barton, my thread is not about online dating!

My 17 year old DD is having a secret affair with a 37 year old who is in a long term relationship with children. We did speak to him and said if it carries on we will tell his partner. However we still think it's going on. Have no idea what to do but it's a terrible situation

Oh crikey! That is a worry for you. I wish I had some advice to give you. Telling his partner what's going on if he doesn't end the relationship with your DD may be your only option, although I'm sure your DD won't like you very much for interfering.

I met my husband when I was 34 and he was 19 . We were friends who casually dated until he was 25 . Despite 14 year age gap , friends and family warnings it wouldn't last , we have been together 21 years and have two children . It's sometimes about the people not the ages . Despite all the reservations my family and friends all accepted when they could see we were good together.
Reserve judgement until you meet him and see them together

10 years at such a young age is a huge gap. I would be concerned.

We had 'the conversation' last night about this new relationship which went okay. I am reserving judgment until I meet him and grateful at the moment she's not spending every waking moment with him because she's working long hours.