TEENAGE SON

[Myster]

Im really worried my son doesn’t like me. He’s almost 15 and has no interest in interacting with me or his sister. He’s very hostile towards us and it’s hard to live with! It really gets me down because I feel like I’ve done something wrong but I know I try my best as a parent. My children are well looked after I bust my butt so they get nice days out, treats, holidays etc and just so generally they have the best possible childhood I can give them. Anyone in the same situation? Is it just his age? I’ve no idea what to do.

My DS is 18 now and I’ve been lucky he has always been easy. But I have had to fake interest in things he values such as Anime (can’t spell) and a computer game he plays. I realised his face lit up when he talked about them so I learnt a little about them. What is your DS interested in?

Also if he is hostile maybe encourage some physical activity, I found my son was much better humoured after sports or a walk in the woods. Burn off some testosterone!

yes, its the age where hanging out with mum isn't cool anymore, no matter how nice the days out or activities are. You need to back off a little bit and let him be, and use that time for yourself and DD. All will be happier.

Imo make sure you parent him as well as being the one to provide the goodies!! He needs to do chores and help out too! Easy sometimes to not poke the bear and just do it yourself!

It is the age really. As long as he is respectful then leave him be. I do pull dc up on rude attitude etc but just be breezy about other stuff. I say things like, I am popping out, might go for a coffee do you want to come. If it is no then I just say ok see you later. Give him options to participate but leave if he says no. It does get better!

Thank you all! I ask him all the time if he wants to do stuff with me, I feel like I've tried absolutely everything. Think I'm going to back off and let him come to me. He's not spoilt, I'm a firm bit fair parent and absolutely do not believe in spoiling children. He's being a bit iffy at school too, nothing bad just off p point.