Friends over whilst ur out

[marsden2008]

Hi just wondered what anyone else does i have 2 kids aged 11 and 13 happy to leave them both in house for short time whilst were out etc but my 13 year old wants a friend round whilst we are out so would just be them 2 in the house which i dont mind too much but im then thinking soon my 11 year old will want friends round whilst we may be out so it ends up being a group of teenagers in house etc while were out does everyone else allow this or is it no friends round if were out? Thanks

What happens when the eldest or most responsible cant control everyone as there will be loads of them and one of him and something happens. If you can trust your kids doesnt mean you can trust their friends

I’d allow one friend each, if you trust your child and the friend. I’d also want the parent to be happy with the situation.
Otherwise, no frien.

Yeah this is the issue really they would only have 1 friend each over but even that means 4 teenagers in the house alone its just hard to decide whats best i feel guilty going out saying to kids you have either go out or stay at home alone but on the other hand dont want teenagers in my house alone

It depends where youre going but maybe take them all with you and then take them somewhere they want to go. It would be annoying but theyre safer under your watch

Sensitive question but are they girls boys or mixed .
I'm parent of a girl and I wouldn't want her in house with no parent and older boys tbh

Friends of the same sex are OK, trust them until you find out otherwise and expect them to push the boundaries. Always leave it vague when you are going to be back just to keep them on their toes, keep them on a tight rein or life gets very difficult.

Agree with this. Wouldn't like boys in with my dd but a couple of friends yes until they probe otherwise.

I have five DCs and would always be fine with one friend each when DCs were over 10 or 11 to about age 15-15 if I were out, but only up to about 7 pm. If I were out after that, then no. I would also call the parents of the visiting child/ children to check if it was ok. I would hope they would return the courtesy.

In other words, weekday daytime hours - fine.
Weekends - prefer to be there to supervise.
After 7 - no.

After 16 I let them all pretty much come and go as they pleased as long as they told me their plans, and they had PT jobs which kept them occupied anyway. I still kept the rule of one friend at a time, more required a bit more planning and coordinating with siblings.

I have one DS, second oldest, and while in theory he was welcome to have a friend around, he tended to go to his friends' homes more than having friends over. Boy houses had more boy stuff to play with. Ours was overrun with girl stuff and no nerf guns, etc.

My DDs went to play/ hang out in houses where there were older brothers, dads home all day, grandparents living in the home, with no second guessing myself.

The only question I ever had was about guns in the house, since I live in the US.

Yeah thanks everyone yes they are mixed my daughter is 11 and my son is 13 it would only be during daytime as i have a 4 year old aswell so always someone bk in by 6pm but i think ill just stick to the no friends in house while were out at the moment rule we have i was worried about the mixed sexes n ages etc aswell