I’m really struggling with my 19 year old DD. She hasn’t been diagnosed but on wait list for full ASD assessment. She’s always struggled with friendships and has no long term friends. She went through a phase of self harm (16-17) and telling extreme lies, including that her family abused her ie didn’t feed her, locked her out of house, screamed at her, made up a boyfriend who abused her (there are so many lies) I found all this out from messages she had sent. It felt like all these lies were to fit in with a new group of people she had met thru a Saturday job I’d got her to help with her socialising. Hence the referral to CAMHS who suggested ASD and cognitive issues, Now she has transferred to adult services, which now means a huge wait list. This was also linked to failing most of her GCSEs and retaking a year, so she is now a year behind her peers about to take a levels. She is not focused, out all the time with work friends or at her place of work and the lies continue, I don’t know if she is telling the same lies but she constantly lies to us, says she is
coning home and then doesn’t turn up to 1am. I’m currently sitting here Waiting for her to come home again for the second night in a row, she ignores my calls and texts, my husband has lost all patience with her and won’t even talk to her anymore and tells me I should do the same. I’ve got no control or way to punish her as I don’t give her money. She’s drinking and smoking and due to her nativity I am so worried about who she is mixing with or what she might be telling them, she’s no plans for when a levels finish which I am sure she will prob fail as she is putting little to no effort in. I feel like a shit parent as I’m feel absolutely lost. Any advice appreciated