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[Selfishmaryann]

So my 13yo told me recently that she has been smoking weed with her friends. I kept my cool and told her I was pleased she felt able to tell me but that is illegal and not a good thing. She suffers with anxiety and I told her it will make that worse.
She text me earlier to say not to let DH see a bag in her drawers (there is a reason why he’d be in there) I went and looked and there is a small amount of weed and some paraphernalia.
many advice on how to deal with this?? I don’t want to cut off lines of communication but feel she has crossed a line and I certainly don’t want her to feel she has my permission to do it.
Please help!

@Fizzyfish heart disease! From the smoking! (Cannabis mixed with tobacco in spliffs). He was also chronically depressed as others have noted, difficult to be around, disinterested in everyone and very selfish. So many lies. It was a hard 20 years with him but he was my brother and my mothers son. It's been difficult.

OK I understand and I am sorry for the loss of your brother so young. I just feel it is important to point out that while cannabis may have been a contributing factor it is misleading to say it is direct one. Heart disease from smoking is caused by tobacco. And as I've already pointed out, people with severe mental health problems should definitely not be smoking cannabis, it does not help them.

@Fizzyfish he didn't have mental health problems before the cannabis use. He was a happy child

Tell her father and come down on her like a ton of bricks. I would consider moving school to get her away from that peer group. The school should also be made aware, although maybe anonymously, so they can get the police in to talk to the children in that year group. Extremely young to be smoking weed - very worrying

I think my main concern would be around the brain changes it can cause in any non-adult. At least say to her if she's going to do it, to wait until she's a real adult (like 21 or whatever the age is where it has less effect). It is totally minimised by society and as an ex user myself wish that peers, parents and others hadn't minimised it to me when I was young.