How to get a teen out of bed in the mornings

[Needwine999]

Its sooooo hard, im up and down the stairs, waking constantly then its a mad dash for college or work or whatever. Sets alarm but sleeps through it. Anyone else in same boat?

This would drive me insane.

My preferred approach would be to let them take the consequence of being late.

If that inconveniences you, then the first time you wake them, they get up and out of bed, to shower, or eat. No staying in bed to fall back to sleep.

Have the conversation with them in the evening and the stick to your guns.

Not my responsibility to wake a teenager. If they are late then it's down to them, and they suffer the consequences!

The occasional lure of an egg sandwich got ds up. He has morphed from a running late teen to an 18yo with a pt job starting at 7 am!! They do change!
Stay strong!!

If they’re that tired they need an earlier bedtime consistently until they can get up in the morning.

it sounds like you’re enabling this teenager (not toddler) by all the waking up and reminding. Have a chat the night before that they’re a big boy/girl now and mummy is going to wake them ONCE and then they need to sort them fuckingselves out!!

We struggled for years with one of ours, it's not soo simple as 'they can take responsibility and suffer the consequences' because nobody wanted him being late and missing his education. I didn't find any answers but at 19 he now has a great sleep routine and gets up early every day. He is autistic and suffered sleep problems for many years though.

My dad used to threaten me with a cold wet flannel!!! I'm not suggesting you do that, but I was out of that bed like grease lightening!! Because i know he was serious!

I have the same problem with one of My teenagers I seriously don't know what the answer is so I'll be following this thread for any tips

My older one now past teen was the same and I had to do this daily for the 6th form , this one is now fine and gets up early for work everyday so it must pass? Its just hard, had forgotten how hard !

Yep my eldest was like this but he now manages fine at uni (with the help of multiple alarms)
I used to go in and wake him up.
Then go in again 5 minutes later fling open the curtains and remove duvet.
Then keep yelling up the stairs.

And yes, he probably was old enough for it to have been his responsibility, but I really couldn't see how missing school constantly, weekly detentions and possible removal from school (indy, so yes it could have happened) were really going to help his future. I'm the parent, so ultimately my responsibility.

Soo frustrating, but they do seem to grow out of it eventually.

I’m glad to read this @roosnunlilei I have an autistic 15 year old dd who also struggles with sleep. Was it just time and maturity that helped improve things?

A very loud alarm across the room they have to get up to turn off.
Good sleep hygiene - screens out of room, earlier to bed.
Open curtains so natural light helps them wake.

If they whine about screens, say that when they can wake and get up without needing you they can have them back.

@bendmeoverbackwards

Time and maturity is exactly what it was. He lives at home and goes to university too and I think he was quite bored in high school (also dropped out at the end of S5 and spent a year doing not a lot due to covid) so staring uni last year woke him up - it's more challenging than high school and he had met some very like minded people and is thriving on those friendships.