How bad is your teenagers room?

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My 17 yr old at work so i ventured in the room, collected some mugs and glasses and a bowl and then spent ages in shock, it was a worse tip than id thought,.,.ok clothes all over the floor as usual but mouldy drinks bottles, the carpet so disgusting, stuff all in her bed ! I cleared the piles and hoovered, then put the piles of clothes back (she goes mad if I put them away). I threw all the food packets out and crap and opened the window.

My elder child was messy at this age but this is extreme,

Anyone else? She says she likes it like that and knows where everything is......................

Both fine. They have gone through messy phases but both their rooms are looking clean and tidy at the moment. The girls are made to tidy their rooms at least fortnightly before the cleaners come.

I can't abide squalor and thankfully I think they've taken after me in that respect.

I don’t let DS have food in his room. Or drinks that aren’t water.

i have to nag him about putting clean clothes away properly. And to put dirty clothes in the washing basket/hang up wet towels etc. It could be a lot worse really.

At 17 my daughters was dreadful just like you describe. She's 23 now and her home is pristine. Son is 17 and he's always been really tidy and clean so his is fine. He even makes his bed!

I cleaned my 15 yr olds room the other week.

They are asked to hoover their rooms and keep them reasonably clean. No food in bedrooms etc.

It was vile, every bag I found had lunch remnants- foil wraps and wrappers etc, the carpet was furry in places, under the bed was gross.

She lost her laptop for a week.

They’re vile. They’re meant to tidy, dust and hoover every week but they do a shoddy job. Clean clothes screwed up all over the floor mixed in with dirty clothes, wrappers all over the floor…They’re not even meant to take food up there but they take their bags up so whatever food and wrappers were in there end up scattered. Stuff piled on shelves and chest of drawers instead of put away. I always say to them if you just put your rubbish straight in the bin and your dirty clothes in the basket you’d have a lot less to tidy each week! I’ve attached some pictures of just how gross they are after supposedly being cleaned three days ago 🤮

18yo stepson's room is a bloody tip.

The rule is it has to be spotless before he goes back to university at the end of each holiday - which he moans about, but gets done.

It drives me mad, because he comes downstairs at all hours of the night and makes food and drinks, and before we know it he'll have ALL of the bowls or ALL of the mugs in his bedroom, and then when asked to bring them down, just comes and fucking dumps them on the side in the kitchen and doesn't even wash them. Basically a big 'fuck you' to me.

We have a standing joke that DD has hidden livestock living in her room 🙈 It can get pretty bad in there, but it tends to be paint/art stuff type mess. And clothes. Because why would you use a wardrobe or drawers when the floor is right there.

DS1 and DS2 share a bedroom and it can get messy, but mainly paper. For some reason, DS2 seems to just collect paper wherever he goes.

I don't allow food and drink upstairs at all though, mainly because I absolutely know all my cups and crockery would be sucked into the abyss. Instead they like to leave cups all over the living room.

They are relatively tidy because I make them tidy up every Sunday, ready for the cleaners on Monday. If it wasn’t for that the 17yo would definitely hoard all my glasses!

My 2 teen daughters share a room so you can imagine. Old food, mouldy cups and rubbish all over the floor and beds like I don't know what.
I've implemented a 15 min tidy rule now every day. Some washing-up down and some rubbish. It's not ideal but it's better than nothing and it's not over whelming for them to do.

I was thinking I needed ideas on how to change my teens slovenly bedroom habits, but after reading this thread maybe just need to accept it? I blame myself for letting them fall into the habit by not consistently enforcing some level of cleanliness, by stealth cleaning when they're out. From when they were little, I've never really given them any accountability for cleaning or tidying. But over the past 3years their habits have moved from light untidiness to really gross. And they don't see the problem. DDs are 13 and 16, the older one is out of school due to mental health...being treated by CAMHS and I guess this holds me back from making a big deal or effort to change. I'd describe myself as a "clean enough" parent.

They go through phases.

Both naturally messy and mucky gits, and I have to do an at least weekly riot act reading about cups, plates and crisp packets shoved under the bed and DO NOT EAT IN YOUR BLOODY BEDROOM! public announcements.

At the moment they’re both pretty decent, though, as they got some new bits for their rooms on the premise they cleaned them up. DS (17) is starting to take more pride in his surroundings and has been hoovering every few days, which is unheard of. DD’s (13) room looks nice currently, but she cannot ever seem to get on top of putting her clean laundry away and I’ll be arsed if I’m doing it for her.

Dd's is clean and tidy because I do it when she is at school because I don't want to have a dirty messy room in my house. Tbf she does keep it tidy I just go in change the bed, vacuum and polish. She knows that if it's not tidy then she would have to do the stuff I do when she got home from school instead so that's her motivation.

14 year old boy. Not very good at all, but I do make him tidy it up and run a damp cloth and vacuum round. If I just left him to it there'd be clothes, rubbish, cups and plates left everywhere.

I went in last week and blitzed it for him because I couldn't stand it anymore. I put all the rubbish in the bin, changed the bedding, dusted and wiped everything down, vacuumed thoroughly, then I put all the stuff and strewn clothes into a basket for him to sort out.

Over a week later and he still hasn't sorted the basket of stuff.

Boy, 15 - spotless. Girls 13 & 14 moderately messy with a light sprinkling of crockery, tangled hair appliances and discarded bras.

No teens here but as a teen I was a disgusting little shit pig. Mouldy cans of coke, plates and cups in my room for days (until my dad would shout at me), rubbish all over the floor literally like a hoarders paradise. By 19 I was better, still messy but clean. Then after moving out at 20 have kept everything clean and tidy. I absolutely couldn’t live how I loved as a teen and it gives me the boak thinking about it 🤮