Should i let my almost 18 yr old do what she wants?

[velvet24]

She's driving me mad. Gave up one college course so we started her on another, now wants to give up that too. Started learning to drive, now wants to give up that too. We left driving for a while as she wasn't fussed then she was the one who was nagging me to get it sorted.

All she wants to do is stay in bed or play PC games. I want to put my foot down now and say no, stick the driving out and stay at college unless you can find something else.

Im so stressed.

Let her make her choices, she is pretty much an adult by today's standards, Give your opinion's (pro's & cons) and tell her you will always love and support her but as an "adult" she has to finance her chosen lifestyle. Assist her with a budget if she will accept your input. We bring them up to be independent, confident and self sufficient, you can do this. Good luck.

rules

How many hours does she work? By law, you have to be in education, apprenticeship or a job until you are 18. I knew someone who left sixform and the parents nearly had to pay a lot of money to the school (can’t remember why now).

Update, well she is adamant doesnt want to continue college wants to work. I said ok, but finish this year as is a waste? Said get more shifts with the current job (she likes this job) whilst you figure it out? She also wants to apply for more apprenticeships (got through to stage 1 of first one) but will that look bad if she quits college?
My own mum not amused said make her complete year 2 of college, cant just drop things.

Stressed

My cousin age 26 does this. Its ridiculous.

Imo I don't think it is worth her completing the course if she is likely to fail it due to lack of effort.

A friends ds did pt work at mcds and went to uni. She was horrified when he wanted to pack in uni 8 months into 1st year to work more shifts in mcds but couldnt stop him. He enjoyed working with the young team in mcds and wanted the cash for fun.

A year on he realised mcds was a bit repeatitive and dull, he saw team mates moving on too and wanted more. He started applying for more jobs and is now in an entry level civil service job and hopes to apply internally over time and develop a career in there.

Sometimes even though we can see the opportunities they are letting pass them by they need to take their own route.