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DD and contraceptive

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TheBestForLast · 17/04/2022 17:23

DD 16 has got her first boyfriend and has asked can she go on the pill. Although I'm not happy that she's wasting no time and we've talked about waiting a while I'm thankful that she is being sensible about it. What options does she have? I'm really new to this as I'm mid forties and old school really lol I've heard of the implant and then there is just a pill but not sure which is best.

I'm going to ring the doctors this week and try and make an appointment although it's easier said than done. My doctors are still doing telephone apps and with me working and DD going to school it's really hard.

Just after some advice and no judging please, like I said at least she is being sensible about it.

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NewtoHolland · 18/04/2022 03:14

Long term reversible contraception Is a good option for teens; no chance of forgetting a pill then. Implanon less fussy than the injection.

sashh · 18/04/2022 05:21

Another vote for Brook or GUM or whatever you have locally, there are often clinics for teenagers where they can talk about the options.

I used the pill because I had horrendous periods and then went for the jab, but that involves a trip to a HCP every 3 months.

Apileofballyhoo · 18/04/2022 09:56

OP the first pill I was on affected my mental health, I put on weight and lost my sex drive (but that might have been mental health) and the second one I'd swear improved my mental health and I lost weight. I think the second one might have been yasmin - it was fabulous whatever it was. I don't know if things have changed since then or if it's trial and error if one particular type or brand doesn't suit. My friend's daughter was on for heavy periods and came off for some reason as in she felt worse, but there are other issues there.

@SecondhandTable mirena coil might be good

Notwithittoday · 18/04/2022 12:25

The age of consent might be 16 but I’ve never seen a teenage girl emotionally mature enough for sex and I’ve worked with teens most of my career. They also can’t deal with the fall out when the teen boy swiftly dumps them afterwards.

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TheBestForLast · 18/04/2022 13:07

@Calandor

She's 16. She doesn't need your permission. She can go to her GP or a sex clinic and get them herself and they're not allowed to tell you.

Try the pill first. The implant can really fuck up your periods. The pill can too but it's easier to stop or change.

She's not asking for my permission. She is asking me to help her with the options available and my advice Smile
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TheBestForLast · 18/04/2022 13:10

@Notwithittoday

The age of consent might be 16 but I’ve never seen a teenage girl emotionally mature enough for sex and I’ve worked with teens most of my career. They also can’t deal with the fall out when the teen boy swiftly dumps them afterwards.
Thank you, I appreciate your advice and opinion. I do worry about this as well but unfortunately it is part of growing up and I can't make decisions for her (if only!!)
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thingymaboob · 18/04/2022 13:57

@Notwithittoday

Have you told her that her chances of cervical cancer increase the younger she begins intercourse and the more sexual partners she has? www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC2670004/ There’s absolutely no way I would be supportive of her having sex this early in a relationship and this young.
She'll have sex whether supported or not. She's consenting and being sensible.

Implant or injection. Pill too unreliable for a 16 yo imo

melcalfe · 18/04/2022 19:16

@sickofthisnonsense

My advice would be she not tell boyfriends she is on BC and insist they still use condoms.

The type will depend on your DD

Will she remember to take it every time?
Could she remember to take one the same time every day?

Does she have any other medical conditions?

She really need to speak to either her GO or practise nurse not ransoms on the internet

Firstly I would really not advise your daughter to lie to her partner, what a horrible relationship lesson.

Secondly, a boyfriend can easily feel the implant. They will be intimate, cuddling, spending time in bed etc., he will clearly feel there is a foreign object in her arm (albeit thin). 🤨

melcalfe · 18/04/2022 19:22

@timestheyarechanging

My daughter went on the pill at 15 due to her painful heavy periods, as did I. She didn't have sex until she was 20!
Sure Smile my mum thinks I didn't have sex until I was 19.

Similar story with a lot of people my age that I know

JollyWilloughby · 18/04/2022 19:22

@Notwithittoday

You really aren’t with it today are you? Why would you presume a 16 year old girl would be upset when a teen boy dumps her? You’re a dinosaur.

When I was 16 I did the dumping.

Andi2020 · 19/04/2022 22:28

@TheBestForLast my dd has implant for 18 months she had periods alot at the beginning but everyone is different.
She still has a period every 3 weeks.
Gp put he on pill with it at start to try stop periods but that made her sick.
Her bf also uses condoms
No point in her trying not to tell him as another poster said he will feel it in her arm

savehannah · 27/04/2022 13:35

@yogahippo best response I've read all day. Totally agree.

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