Have finally asked 16 yr dd to leave...

[SpacecadetOnADiet]

...and she has obliged..i suspect she has gone to her bf's.
I really thought that things were improving..but she got a new bf who doesnt work or go to college and its rubbed off on her..she failed 3 assigmenrs before christmas and wants to leave college..we had a massive row tonight and she threw a step ladder across the landing and it nearly hit my 3 yr old dd..i decided enough was enough and told her she had to look for somewhere else to live..she has gone already..to her boyfriends no doubt and I dont want her back..anyone who read m y previous thread pf a year ago will know that I have severe probs with her..I will be changing the locks.

Spacecadet, so sorry this has happened, but I totally understand why you had to do what you did.

I have been wondering how things were going.

I guess all you can do is make sure you are there for her as and when she wants/needs you.

Take care.

well the situation is that her friends parents phoned her father up..his response?? he wasnt interested and he phoned social services to let them deal with it..Ive been told by my mother who is in regular contact with dd that dd has been contacted by social services and they are finding her somewhere to live..I phoned her father up tonight and he said, I dont want to discuss this with you and hung up..however, hes not exactly doing anything to help her, his answer was to ring social services and wash his hands of the problem...I phoned parentline today and the woman on the helpline was lovely, she has referred me to young minds.

try and stay positive it could be the making of her!

spacecadet
Ive only just seen this and know exactly how you feel.

My dd (nearly 17 too) is just the same. Ive given her two weeks to find herself somewhere else to live..with the near same response from her dad as your dd's I feel like shit but i know its for the best for all of us. they think they know it all at that age don't they? You have to let them go for them to realise what they had iykwim?

you have my hugs. It hurts like hell doesn't it

elesbells-yep it hurts..at the end of the day, ive had to ask my baby to move out..tbh..although its quiet..I feel like shit

Have been so close to throwing DS2 out on many occasions - to the point i told him he 9 days left till he turned 16 and he was out- he soon wiaened up when he found that no one was keen to give him a bed for the night,never mind let him move in!So for the moment he stays while he follows the house rules and so far - fingers crossed it seems to be working!

Spacecadet