Sleepovers 5 days straight.

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A new girl hs joined my dds friendship group.
She slept at my house Thur and Fri last week. Another girls Sat and Sunday. My dd has asked if she can stay tonight.
I have said no. She hasn't been home in ages. Dd said she did to get clean clothes. She said don't worry her Mum is fine with it
I just think its a bit much. I feel my dd has excessive sleepovers as it is but this is another level or shall I just go with the flow as its the holidays?

How old?

How old and where does the girl live in relation to her friends? I used to pretty much move into my best friends in the holidays from about 14 onwards as I lived rurally and she lived in the town so there was far more for us to do there.

Sorry year 9 so 13/14

She does live over the other side of town and commutes across.

We had a friend who did that at around 15/16, they did not have a home to go to. Their mum had moved in with her boyfriend, leaving the teen behind in the family home, which was very deliberated, and without money for food or heating. Are you able to check if the girl is alright?

I had a really tough time at home at that age, fortunately I had a great best friend and I was able to have lots of sleep overs at her place, we're still friends 40 years on.

It's the holidays, if they're having a nice time I'd leave them to it personally.

She is all right. She has 4 siblings.
I do know about about them from my job but yes they are ok.
I feel like I hardly see my dd on her own and they just eat loads of rubbish.
Maybe I should just go with it. At least I know where they are if they are here. Its when she starts asking for more people to come so she had 6 of them in her bedroom which was too noisy.

It's the holidays. Let your Dd have her friend over to stay. Her friend might just be one of those children who are social butterfly's

I think if I allowed it she would stay the whole two weeks.

When I was that age we would stay at each other’s for days on end and it was such a wonderful bonding time. I’m still friends with those girls almost 20 years on. It’s just for the holidays and only for a short time - I’d say yes. And also be welcoming! We could always tell which mothers hated us being there and although the sleepovers continued regardless (teenagers oops, looking back I have more sympathy for the mothers haha) it wasn’t a nice feeling being unwelcome.

It's really good you know where your dd is,.