Feel a bit sidelined

[nottodaymaw]

DS18 asked me to pick up a card a small gift for his SM while I was doing the shopping yesterday, as he was working. No problem.

Today he gave me a voucher for his workplace. No card. Okay, fine. We'll use it together.

I dropped him at work today, said I'd collect him again after.

Get a text saying he's staying out because he's bumped into his gran and she really wants him to stay out with her and his uncles.

Fine, I'm glad they're all close, but I've had a shit week and he knows that last weekend someone close to me passed (no-one he knew).

Not even a cup of tea in the house with my kid on Mother's Day.

Am I being silly?

One of mine popped in with the gifts I had chosen myself (crockery!) and announced he had half an hour as he was off out with his mates.
I told him he can take me out to lunch tomorrow instead!!
Bagged myself a free posh lunch!!
No shame me!!
Pin him down for a coffee soon op. No shame in telling him you would appreciate a bit of his time!

DS18s can be quite self-absorbed and I'm sure he would be mortified if he knew he's upset you by being thoughtless today.

Without piling on the agony, I'd have a word with him and explain he's been a bit insensitive, that you enjoy his company and could you spend some time together soon?

My guess is that unless you spell it out, he will be unaware that he's hurt your feelings.

Tell u to our ds you would like to spend some time with him - as to you that’s what mothers days about and as he was tied up with other people this Sunday - you’ll wait till next Sunday. Then set a time and tell him you’ll look forward to him treating you

He got you present he made the effort to independently get by himself. You got sm a card, he didnt make the effort. Sounds like he got a bit kidnapped by his gran.

Think you are doing ok. Look at the positives, he is still learning.

Thank you all.

And you're absolutely right @Blanketpolicy a poor woman I know of has lost her mum and her son in the last few months. Her Mother's Day will have been unbearable.

Time for some perspective.