Teen daughter 14 and a half

[DMVJ]

Hi
Teen daughter is just so rude to me. It's complicated. As I've made a lot of mistakes. But it's unbearable. She's horrible to me and nice to her dad. Please help. I'm not coping.

What is the set up, do you live with her dad?

Many children are very rude, it is not personal even though it feels like it is.

I always remember listening to a pod cast. Raising boys and girls. They talk about all of this. Not to take it personally it’s hard but it’s a phase. open.spotify.com/episode/6XqzXH1xLaQSCOurzdC2Ca

Please listen to the above so helpful. It starts with boys but at about 12 mins it talks about girls and the narsasistic years. There episodes are great. There child councillors. If you understand what she is going through it really helps. It did me. X

I live with my husband and daughter.

I hear it's a phase. But it's been going on for 2 half years nearly. It's bad. Xxx

I'm sorry to hear it is bad

I do feel your pain, they can be awful. Do you want to explain in any more detail what is happening, what sets it off, whether there are ever any times where things are OK, whether she is doing OK at school etc?

@Jamn50 this talk is great. Thanks. Still think she's bad. But this does help a bit.

[quote DMVJ]@Jamn50 this talk is great. Thanks. Still think she's bad. But this does help a bit. [/quote]
You think she is bad or that the situation is bad?

@carefullycourageous she's ok. If left alone and never challenged or even made suggestions to.
She's Okish at a bad school. Not really doing much.

@ldontWanna both. She is just so emotional so angry so embarrassed so difficult. I'm not coping.

@DMVJ I went through this and what helped me most was counselling for myself. Just being able to download was hugely helpful and they also gave me great advice. I think when you're in the thick of it it can be difficult to have perspective and we can get stuck in destructive behaviour patterns.

Op I feel your pain, in fact I've started a thread on this very subject in this section (come join us!) - it was comforting to know I wasn't the only one going through the daily highs and mainly lows of teenage girl mood swings. The sullen replies, the looks of disdain, the simmering dislike...yep and I've got two going through it at the same time! As for coping, it's a week by week process currently as they were impacting on my mental health but one thing I will say is take time for yourself and your own life. You need to feel happy and robust to deal with this rollercoaster of a ride that is the teenage years.

@hellswelshy thanks. Where is your thread xxx

Sorry I'm not sure how to link to it, but it's on the Teenagers section same as your thread, entitled 'So draining living with teenagers ' .

@hellswelshy thank you xxx I thought husbands were tricky till I tried a teenager. Men are amazing compared to teens!!