In a bit of a quandary about DD (13yo). DD has never been that keen on sport or any extra curricular activities in general. We’ve never pushed it- she went to a few things over the years when she showed an interest and kept up gymnastics (a fun session rather than competitive) for a couple of years but gradually lost interest in that as well. At the moment, she goes to one lunchtime club at school (non- sport) and is completely uninterested in trying any others. The club she does do is not one where she is socialising with her own peer group - more helping a teacher run a club for younger ones. At home, she tends to want to spend her time on screens (which we do keep tabs on and limit where necessary) but she struggles to think of anything else to do. She doesn’t have a very busy social life- has a couple of closer friends at school but doesn’t do much with them out of school (we have encouraged/offered opportunities to do so).
My instinct is that DD would really benefit from going to a club or group entirely separate from school where she could meet (hopefully) like-minded people and not only be reliant on school for friendships. I’ve suggested this but while she agrees with the idea, she doesn’t like the idea of starting something new on her own- I understand her feelings on this as this is tough, even for adults. As a separate point, I also worry that she should be doing more in the way of physical activity but this is less important to me than her just enjoying something/finding an interest for something. So my question is really, at the age of 13, would you be more firm about encouraging another club/interest outside of school or leave the decision entirely to her?