Eating disorder

[MisterFox]

Sorry if I'm posting in the wrong place, I'm new here.

My 13 year old daughter as quite a few issues going on. She's develoed OCD during Covid and will not eat a lot of food we eat as she is worried about food poisoning. She won't touch the taps, hob or freezer, mainly due to worrying about us touching raw chicken and leaving traces of it. Anyway, as she hasn't been eating a greta deal she has lost weight. Unfortunately, due to lockdowns, we didn't see people for quite a while and they commented on how she has lost weight, which brought a sile to her face. We think this has led to her deliberatley not eating to keep her weight down. She doesn't eat breakfast or lunch on a school day. She won't eat the same meals as us so we're just making her what she will eat and buying what she likes, just to make sure hse eats something. Most of it isn't particularly healthy, eg microwave macaroni cheese, Linda McCartney veggie buckets, etc. We contaced CAMHS who don't think she is bad enough for them. They suggetsed weighing her every couple of weeks and letting them know her weight after a couple of months, which I thought would be the worst thing to do? We did get someone at CAMHS who is in training to do weekly sessions with her voluntarily, supposed to be CBT, but it's not made any difernce after almost a year.

Sorry for the long post but I'm starting to get worried about her, as is my wofe and her 2 older sisters. I feel powerless and don't know how I can help her.

Get advice for parents from one of the eating disorder associations.
www.beateatingdisorders.org.uk/
They have parent support groups and parent training sessions too, and helplines. They have chat rooms for parents where you can speak to other parents in your situation.
For someone your daughter's age, you as her parent can play a pivotal role in her recovery.
I wouldn't worry about the 'healthy' ness of the food, as long as she's eating. Let her have that control.
If she's still sitting at the table eating with you then let her eat what she likes.
And don't comment on it - whether it's good or bad food, or too little or too much. Be pleasant and relaxed and act happy around mealtimes and don't be staring at her plate. Likewise some kids find it easier to eat alone, that's OK too if it comes to that.
Try to not get panicked. She's not in immediate danger. Take heart, there is support out there. Arm yourself with information and support behind the scenes.

Thanks for your reply. We're trying to do as you suggest, we are giving her what she will eat just so she gets dome food down her. I'll try the site you suggest.