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My son 15 help

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Richtea2 · 07/03/2022 21:57

I am trying to get my son focused on his school but all he wants to do is sit on his phone. His nintendo switch been put away until he starts catching up on his work. He does no work at home. He will go to library and do work there.
I emailed his all his teachers few weeks ago asking for update on how he is doing. Some got back to me and some didn't.
English said said he behind with work and he misses the lesson on Wednesday due to him going do his cooking course. So he needs to catch up on his work. Some other lessons said the same.
I had been called in for a meeting because I had email he was behind on this other subject. He said he wanted to drop it and he never chose it. I had to go over his options and email and told him he did. The nice head of that subject said he can work with him. But even that teacher said who ever made these phones etc don't like children he has same trouble with his.
My son has ADHD and they do really help him. He decided to stop his medication so camhs discharged him. The senco just doesn't get back to your emails. Last time we spoke to him via link on laptop. She was like maybe he can do a course in cooking.
I just want him to do good at his English and Maths.
I bought him Maths books and he will sit there just not knowing what to do or just not motivated to do it.
I have told him on Wednesday he needs to show his Google classroom where his work is on. Show me what he done.
Today he comes home late and I was getting worried. Then asked him if he is okay. He doesn't say much about school. All he comes out with he trying to find a girl friend. He broke up with his last one.
Thought to myself is this all he thinking of rather that his school work.
Just so much other things trying to get him to do for himself at home. It's just no happening.
Any advice please

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pimento51 · 13/03/2022 20:01

My son has ADHD and is like this (except too shy to find a girlfriend) - behind in all his subjects, not at all working up to his ability. It's a hard age and confusing with so much growth, social and hormonal stuff going on. I think they need a lot of really clear structure, as much as you can while still maintaining a good relationship. Frame it as collaborative problem solving, so he helps you come up with a solution for getting his gcse's, something that is realistic and do-able for both of you.

Richtea2 · 13/03/2022 20:09

@pimento51

My son has ADHD and is like this (except too shy to find a girlfriend) - behind in all his subjects, not at all working up to his ability. It's a hard age and confusing with so much growth, social and hormonal stuff going on. I think they need a lot of really clear structure, as much as you can while still maintaining a good relationship. Frame it as collaborative problem solving, so he helps you come up with a solution for getting his gcse's, something that is realistic and do-able for both of you.
I took his game away. He wanted it back but checked he got work he needs to do. He told me he wasn't coming home tommorow after school. I really did have a go at him and not long ago he apologized. All because he wants his own way. Surprised he did do his bedroom. I have had enough.
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unicornsarereal72 · 13/03/2022 20:30

My son is the same. Ice eve sen him do any work. Some of his subjects I can get my head round. Maths and science are out of my skill set but so plan to sit with him from sept a d just go through few pages of the rather expensive revision guides I've paid for with him. It won't happen. Otherwise

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