Lying

[Userleah]

My 15 year old son lies a lot. Even when I find out he’s been lying and present him with the evidence he carries on lying. I’ve obviously had conversations about this but it doesn’t change. My husband often tells lies as well but not sure how much my son would be aware of this.I hate this situation as I’m such an honest person it really annoys me. Anyone have any advice?

Teens lie, it is a fact, they also don't like to admit to it if they think they can still get away with it or in an attempt not to lose face. I would not ask him to admit he is lying, a simple statement of fact and consequence is enough.

For example don't ask him if he ate the last rolo or get into a conversation about it if you know for sure he did. Simply state, you ate the last rolo, your pocket money will be short next week to replace it.

Your dh (who knows, maybe he ate the last rolo) is a completely different thread and not one you need to put up with, but it is also setting a very bad example for your ds.

Yes I agree about setting a bad example. Thanks for answering

Yes it’s hard because now I honestly don’t believe anything he tells me. It’s a sad state of affairs

Yes, same here. I have preteen ds, and teenage ds, both lie to me, and then ds cries when he has been found out. He did it today over his maths text and lack of revision, I had to walk out of the house to take dog for a walk. I'm still angry now I'm home. It's the sheer stupidity that really irritates me, it's no way to live a life, and no way to move forward and solve problems. He creates problems, which I'm then obligated to solve. Sick of it!

This is totally how i feel, it’s no way to live and it’s so stressful.

Came on here to look for a thread about my 16yo lying DD. Little things, bigger things. She even exaggerates conversations. Really upsets me cos I feel like I'm dealing with a toddler in a 16yo body. She is very immature in other ways too & I fear about to flunk her GCSEs. I so want to have that lovely mother daughter relationship but we're at loggerheads all the time these days.

Same here with DS13. Lying over things when he can easily be found out on. It’s very draining. I have started to reduce x box time when I discover a lie however I have also been fooled a couple of times.

14yo DS. Lies all the time and always a last minute reason to stay out later than involves a guilt trip ie. friend can't walk home alone.

I'm absolutely not a fan of teenage boys and I can't wait to get through this stage, it's the sneakiness that's the worst.

Yes I agree I can’t wait till he grows out of it I just hope he does