Should I let 17 year old DS’s girlfriend sleep over?

[walkingoneggshell]

He’s 17 and a half and she’s 16. Been together about 6 months. He asked if she can stay tonight as they want to go somewhere together tomorrow. He’s my first born so feeling a bit unsure. I know they have sex and we’ve had a chat about respect and contraception. My mum never have let my boyfriend’s sleep in the same room as me even when I was at university and I remember it made me feel awkward, but obviously they’re younger than that.

I think if you know they’re having sex anyway then as long as her parents are ok with it I don’t see the issue! Obviously I think the ball is in her court and wouldn’t want her to think she had to but if she’s happy to then at 17 I would happily agree yes.

I don’t see an issue?

Obviously it’s your house and you are entitled to say no, but you don’t seem to have a problem with their relationship? Better in his bedroom than a car or a field I’d say.

I would. I’d rather dd’s early sexual experiences are civilised than in some alley or car or whatever.

Would you rather they did it in the woods or in his bed? I would talk to her parents but ultimately I would rather they were safe under my roof.

I didn't and I wouldn't, at that age. We don't have a spare room, but the 'host' child would be on the sofa and their guest would be in their bedroom.

I don't think the alternative is either 'share a bed while I'm in the next room' or 'shag in an alley or a car', or 'do it in the woods'. I am quite sure they got up to things in bed while I was out during the day. But I preferred it not to be quite so blatant, especially with younger children in the house.

I wouldnt, some things can wait. You cant stop them sleeping together but you dont have to condone it or provide the bed.

It's up to you! I let my kids have long term boyfriends or girlfriends stay over from 16ish - they all seemed to have long healthy relationships with nice boyfriends/girlfriends so I never felt unsure about it. It would have been tricky if I had disliked one of the B/G friends or if they had had multiple short term partners.