Due to difficult behavior, appointments for neuro disability (ADHD) and school, I did not return to work after adopting. DS is 15 now and has been constantly challenging. I am drained all the time. He has always told lies and nothing has worked. Has his own agenda with little thought for anyone else. I'm sure he has a personality disorder but despite regular appointments, nothing like that is diagnosed. He has been screened for ODD but doesn't have it.
I can't leave him alone in the house as he can't be trusted. He has never done homework as it's always ended in him having a terrible meltdown. He is in Y11 and supposed to be revising for GCSE but has no interest at all.
I'm dreading college, as it's only 3 and a half days. At least with school he has to be up every morning and busy all day. He is fit and active and does a sport one night a week and every Sunday morning. But at home, he is unable to entertain himself, never reads because he finds it so difficult and has poor attention span (SEN) . He can be so cheerful but switches when things don't go his way. Tonight he has called me stupid, idiot, dumb. In lockdown he was praised for being online at every lesson but that's because I had to sit next to him ! He would be hanging off his chair desperate for it to end. We endured violence from him in lockdown and he nearly ended our marriage. It only survived as I have no money.
I'm just done with it all. My mum is waiting for a new hip and needs daily visits. She is so kind and grateful and then I go home to his sour attitude. He's supposed to be going with me to his grandmas tomorrow but I just want to leave him at home (husband is WFH) but DH understandably won't want that when he's trying to work.
I'm always on edge but very good at looking relaxed. DS has never had the opportunity to stay overnight with anyone else so there is no break