I have an almost 14 year old ds.
I'm finding him such hard work and at times he's making me feel quite unwell.
My biggest bugbear is that he doesn't take care of his stuff. He has nice things that he's had for Christmas and birthdays. Nice hoodies get left outside in the garden. He treats his electronics roughly. If for example I ask him to come off his phone, console or laptop he will slam them down hard in anger. I've warned him if they get broken they will not be replaced but he mocks me and claims he hasn't done anything.
Simple things are a nightmare to get him to do. Just putting his own bag, shoes and coat away can result in an angry outburst from him. I just expect a basic level of him picking up after himself and doing a few very basic chores like taking out recycling when I ask. But it causes daily arguments and aggression from him. He does things in the end but it's exhausting and causes so much unnecessary tension.
I try and always have done to do nice things together that appeal to everyone's interests but he very often ruins days out by being demanding and selfish. For example a simple family bike ride he causes an argument over which way we are riding. A theme park he will demand lunch from the minute we get there and demand to go on all his rides first.
He will tell us to shut up and piss off and that we are annoying.
I'm so tired. I try to speak to him and outline that there are some basic house rules that I expect him to follow. He says he agrees but then it all goes to pot after a few days.