Help, daughter failing exams, recent change in attitude

[Ladyof]

My daughter, 15 has just sat her gcse mock exams.

She was predicted 5, 6 and 7's and she got 1, 2 3 and 4's. I am so disappointed in her, even worse than this we've had a recent parents evening and it was shocking.

Every single year she's had a glowing report even the one in sept was glowing, fast forward to now, her most important year and 4 months away from exams and it was just awful. I'm so embarrassed.

Every single teacher said she has changed over the last 3 months, which coicides with her getting a bf.

They said her attitude is poor and effort is appalling, she doesn't listen, is often on her phone. 2 teachers said I sense a boy is on the scene?

I knew she had changed at home but i am so surprised about school.

I don't know what to do and I'm so disappointed in her.

Any ideas on how to get her back on track?

The Best way forwards ...

I’d sit her down and discuss what her plans are for September. She most likely thinks she’s going to do A levels, but unless she gets better grades that’s obviously not going to happen.

I think you need to change this from you being disappointed, to how the adults can support your dd to keep up with school work.

Can you contact the boy's parents and the boy and sit down with your dd and work out a time table of when they can see each other.

For some teenagers just spending time together is important, even if they are sitting at the kitchen table doing homework.

With the phone work with the school, if he uses it in class then it is removed and she gets it back at home time, not before

Am sorry as it is so hard to get through to teenagers sometimes/all the time. Are there any more mocks coming up ? could you say unless there is a big improvement in results ie meeting the grades she needs to get to the next step (a levels, b Tec etc..)then there will have to be some big changes. Mine actually accept me taking their phones away for study as they realise they have no self control and even then it is a struggle. I have said to mine if you fail it isn’t the end of the world but do you really want to do a year of retakes while all your friends are moving on.

More excellent advice thank you all I'm definitely going to listen to some of these great ideas! It is about getting good them on board and I definitely need to change my mindset from anger and disappointment to ok how do we put this right.