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Self harming

3 replies

PurpleLion2 · 02/02/2022 11:30

My DD has self harmed on and off for about 3 years now, she's only 15. She has recently been feeling low and has told me she worries she's going to cut again after being clean for 2 months but doesn't want to. A positive step I thought. I have been in
Touch with the school she has a lot of support. She's on the list again for counselling. I have been in touch with the gp, she had an appointment with the mental health nurse last week that gave her some fabulous information to go forward with.
Today I have found 2 tools she would use for cutting in her drawer next to her bed. I regularly check her room- she doesn't know. Do I tell her I have found these and have it out with her knowing she will be angry I've looked in her drawers?
Or do I not says anything and leave it there but continue with the support and hope she makes her own decision not to cut.
Or do I take it away and not say anything and see if she comes to me (probably angry) when she realises they are gone?
Help please...

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SerenadeOfTheSchoolRun · 02/02/2022 19:25

Hello. I am totally new to this and DD (been doing self harming for a year apparently) has said she is not ready to stop so I am imaging the worst. All the advice I have seen says that you shouldn’t stop them and shouldn’t confiscate sharps. It is so hard when you just want to protect them.

Mintfullness · 02/02/2022 20:01

You are her parent so you want to protect her
But you know she will just find something else if you take them
So I think you need a new approach
Remain supportive obviously
But you may find she wants nothing to do with you when she realises you've gone through her stuff

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