need positive stories of people who now love their siblings

[lu9months]

but hated them as teens! thankyou , it will help keep me from panicking too much that my 17 yr old son cant bear his 12 year old sister

Not teens but at age 8/10 to 10/12 we hated each other

For those 2 years we physically hurt each other as much as possible and still have the scars. Pushed each other down stairs, through glass doors, whacked heads on radiators, wooden stools...
Also lied our pants off to get each other into trouble and were just plain mean

Calmed down a bit after then and from 14/16 we were best friends and still are over 30 years later

So maybe some hope!

Same age gap between me and my eldest sibling. We did not get along. Much shouting and slamming of doors and throwing things at each other. It gradually got better as I got older. Now we no longer live together we are really close and talk all the time. I think that’s a really hard age gap, especially at this point because your youngest will be at her most annoying to a 17 year old!

I would say don’t be too hard on the older one. Looking back I can see I was really annoying. I think instinctively you want the older kid to be the bigger person. But ask yourself honestly when things happen who is at fault, if either of them, or if it’s a thing you want to get involved in at all.

thankyou. great to hear this. 12 year old def super annoying, whiney and pubertal! i do perhaps expect 17 year old to cope more like an adult would but that is probably a bit unfair.

There’s 6 years between me and my younger brother. I absolutely hated him as a child, ignored him as a teen, and left home at 18 when he was just becoming more interesting.

I moved away to university, lived away for a while and then went to live abroad, but towards then end of his twenties we got closer and I love him to bits now. He’s one of my best friends and always will be.
Our mum died a couple of years ago - I’m so glad to have him to share memories with.

Don’t worry if your kids don’t get on now - especially at those ages. In ten years time they may well be great friends.

My sister is three years younger and we are polar opposites. We can get along now for a day at a time 20 years later!

We had a similar age gap ( 18/12) and our elder one ( male) never got along with the younger one ( female ) until he was about 20 . In our case the problem was all with the eldest but they are 29/22 now and get on fine .

Both me and DSis1 have always got on fine with Dsis2, I was 10, DSis1 was 7 when DSis2 was born. So don't know if it is age gap or personality.