Mornings with a teenager!

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When 15yo dd has to be up in the morning she sets her alarm and I usually stick my head in to check she's awake and moving, usually offer her a cuppa. Apparently it's REALLY ANNOYING to have someone check you're awake when you've ALREADY SET YOUR ALARM and you're PERFECTLY CAPABLE OF WAKING UP, MUM, GODDDD! Fair enough, I won't do that any more then. Guess who was still fast asleep this morning as I was putting my shoes on and calling her to leave for a dentist appointment?

I think she thinks I was making a point, but I genuinely wasn't. She's left the house in 10 minutes flat, no breakfast, no cuppa, and she's going straight from the dentist to a shift at work.

I've told her I'm happy to resume checking she's up and offering her tea if she likes, or I won't do it if she'd rather I didn't, but I'm not prepared to do it and be told I'm annoying for it. Her choice. I know which I'd choose.

Oh gosh, my ds is 13...if I check he's awake and aware of the time he's gets very annoyed with me. So I stopped...he slept in. Then he started moaning that it was my fault for not checking on him. So I started checking he was awake in the mornings, so he moaned again. Literally cannot win with teenagers can you?!

Ha, not just mine then.

I have this very same issue! If I don't check he's awake and aware of the time he doesn't get up but apparently that's annoying and I need to leave him alone. If I leave him he doesn't get up. Teenagers eh? I almost miss him getting up at the crack of dawn because 'sleeping is so boring' when he was little!

Ds1 was a nightmare.

Every school morning he'd set his alarm for 7.30. And not get up. At 7.45 I'd open the door and tell him the time and to get up.

And repeat. Every 5 minutes, until 8.10, increasing in volume and frustration. At 8.10 I'd shout. Eventually he'd get up, grumbling and whining, and sloooooowwwwly get ready for school. He was always late.

Ds2 however (now 14)- gets himself up at 6.30. Showers, makes his breakfast, gets dressed, and is ready to go by 7.40. He doesn't have to leave at 7.40, but does so because he likes to walk with a group of friends.

I keep telling him he's not 'teenagering' properly but it's just the way he is.

Yell at her from downstairs when she has 20 minutes, so just enough time to leg it.

Literally yell - IT'S 8.30......

then leave her to it.

If she's up and getting ready she'll silently roll her eyes in her bedrooms. If she's late - she'll jump out of bed and race round!

Oh that's lovely Shodan. At least you appreciate this about him, after the battles with his brother!
Dd is honestly (mostly) lovely. She's not a foul, grumpy, furious, selfish teen. It's just the waking in the morning that brings out the worst in her!

DD 2 used to be so good at getting up herself and making breakfast etc while DD1 was awful. Now DD2 is nearly 18 and has taken to not getting up. If I try to wake her I get moaned at. I just leave her to it now. She’s been late a couple of times but that’s her look-out now as uni beckons in September and I won’t be there!