My daughters having a hard time at school lately!

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My daughters recently been targeted at school by pretty much all the girls in her form she has been cornered into a room and shouted and screamed at it’s all been videoed and sent round to everybody at school, she’s feeling very depressed and anxious about returning to school and seeing all the girls again as she has no one around her at school not one friend shes very lonely at school and at home. I’m very concerned she has no friends we’ve always lived in the same town but she just stays in alone I’m very worried about her but I don’t want her to know how upset I am. I feel like I’ve failed her as a parent and I wonder if anyone could please give me any advice? It would be very much appreciated.

What have you tried so far? Have you been in touch with school? Can she move schools?
How old is she?

Sorry to hear about your daughter.
Have you contacted the school about this, either a guidance leader or head of year?

Schools in our area have police liaison officers who can support you and your daughter.

These websites might help you and your daughter. We have found the first one very helpful in the past. You can message them and they will offer advice for your daughters situation.

www.kidscape.org.uk/advice/advice-for-parents-and-carers/talking-to-schools-about-bullying/

www.bullying.co.uk/

www.nationalbullyinghelpline.co.uk/kids.html

www.supportline.org.uk/problems/bullying-at-school/

I’m in touch with the school, she’s 13 she doesn’t really want to move schools at the moment but I think if things don’t get any better she might have to but because we live in a small town she will probably bump into all these girls at some point. She’s now worried about these girls turning up at our house because the two girls she considered her friend before all this informed the ones who are wanting to fight where she was.

I’ll have a look at the websites you’ve posted, thank you.

That sounds very hard for you and your daughter. I hope you get some useful ideas from the websites that have been recommended.
I find it hard sometimes to know when to watch and wait, and when to escalate, and this sounds very much like a time to escalate. It's time to advocate for your daughter and her need to be safe in school - if you have a friend or relative who can support you with this that might be helpful. If there is actual video evidence of the bullying that should help your case with getting the school to take action.

I think it's really common for kids who are having a hard time not to want to move school, but I wouldn't rule it out if the problem can't be solved.

Meanwhile, try to keep things positive for her out of school - if you can, do something she likes this weekend - keep it relaxed and positive.

I know a girl who had similar sounding experiences with targeted bullying by a group of girls at 13. A couple of years on, she's settled into a nice group of friends at the same school and the bullying kids have completely left her alone. It was really not nice at the time, but it's over now.

Take care of yourself as well - it's a hard thing for you to face too.

Watching with interest. My DD12 is very lonely in school. No friends, and a girl who used to be her friend is telling everyone not to speak to DD. I have spoken to the form tutor who has been very kind to my daughter and has moved some seating arrangements. I do hope my daughter feels happy soon. She doesn't want to go in most days, and doesn't touch her packed lunch, as there is no one to eat with. She doesn't want to move school, as she has started to make academic progress and the teachers like her. Feeling sorry for dd 😭