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Tired02 · 19/01/2022 11:28

Hi everyone
My first post here trying to find just someone who may be in a similar position or knows what I am going through!
I have a 15 year old boy, will be 16 in a couple of months. Always been a very bright happy child until about a year ago. Last year he talked about suicide, me and his father (separated) spent many hours supporting him. Spent time with private therapist, with cahms, with teachers and thankfully my son confirmed two weeks ago that he ‘is over that now’ which clearly was a relief. However during one therapy session the therapist mentioned ‘he may be autistic’ but nothing came of it. We have seen no signs, no inclination from schools / behaviours etc but last week son brings it up and we talked. Parents evening this week was extremely positive, Pastoral care raised no concerns no ‘autism’ behaviours etc. I haven’t mentioned this to him but am closely monitoring. Last night he tells me he is bisexual, ok, no issue for me although knowing he hasn’t had any encounters I explained this is probably quite normal to feel this way. Then he tells me he is transsexual and wants to be a girl. Now, whilst these 4 things are topics I can deal with, support and address I am wondering where the hell all this is coming from. He has come from a very loving supportive family, he doesn’t need for anything materialistic or emotionally. I know I can be quite ignorant to the ways of teenagers, ‘back in the day’ we spent our nights out with friends, playing, socialising, drinking and god knows what else until curfew! He’s not like that, he has two especially close friends, boy and a girl who’s family I know well so I just don’t know where all this is coming from! I feel like it’s constantly one big ‘issue’ after another, like he is constantly trying to find something ‘wrong with him’. Has anyone else experienced this before?!
Thank you and sorry to rant!

OP posts:
DrChasuble · 07/02/2022 15:06

Hi So sorry that you are having such a tough time. Having my own challenges with teenage boy at the moment, but not the same issues, but didn't want to just pass by without giving you a bump. Hope you find the help and support you need.

balzamico · 07/02/2022 15:46

As I understand it, transexuality/ non-binary and other behaviours such as goths/ emos etc are far more common among children with asd so it may be worth getting more support to investigate that.

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