what's the liklehood that two 16 yr olds that have been going out for 6 months...

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are not shagging?

don't know

very shy

they don't talk about "things like that"

I'm not sure why you are asking? What business is it of yours whether they are or are not shagging. I don't want to sound rude but it's a bit of a weird post. Some 16 yr olds would, some wouldn't. I think I'd be inclined to believe yr daughter, that they aren't doing the deed, because girls tend to confide in their friends. But either way you sound a bit too interested in your daughter's friend's love life. If I was you, I'd leave your friend's daughter and her mum to their own relationship. Sorry.

Is your dd 16? Does she have a boyfriend?

Does it matter if they are having sex anyway? As long as it is what they both want & they are being careful.

Well I was shagging my boyfriend every opportunity I got when I was 16. I also moved in with him so we could shag all we wanted. obviously my parents disapproved, tis ok though 13 years later and I'm still married to him.

hmmmmm... i'd go with believing your DD.
And at 16 i was happily Fumbling-But-Not-Shagging my boyfirend.
sorrrrrrry to disappoint but was not singing jesus songs either. Slight lack of time and opportunity.

I'm pissing myself laughing at shagging/singing about Jesus and there being no middle ground

I'm not sure I agree - I think there is a little bit of middle ground, not much though...

DH and I have been together since I was 15 (he was 16) and we were together 6 months before sleeping together

Definitely possible that they're not - I had a boyfriend at 15/16 and I don't think he ever even took my top off properly! though admittedly I was stupendously naive and also self-confident enough to stand my ground. But really, if they are, as long as they're both happy and being sensible, that's the best context surely? a steady relationship and real affection, whether it lasts or not.

The really easy way to tell if they are or not is by watching how intimate they are in public. If the openly kiss & are 'touchy feely' then 'fraid they definately are!

"They are either shagging or singing songs about Jesus

I think there is little in-between ground "

quote of the week MP quote of the week.

I had a boyfriend from the age of 15-17 and we did everything but. I had this thing about not losing my virginity until I was over 18 (don't know why really!). My mum was forever asking me about contraception and I used to get really cross that she didn't believe me.

I was at university (and on to my 5th boyfriend) before I finally did the dirty deed!

i was with my boyfriend now dh since i was 15 were togther 18months and was 17 before we started

it is possible they aren't but it wont hurt to slip a few mates into her coat pocket or something.

dreading my two getting to that age

ds has a mate who is 15/16 and he has been with his gf for months and they are not.(boy waiting until gf is 16)

I had one boyfriend for over a year when I was 16 and we never went anywhere 'below belts' we didn't really discuss it, we just didn't.

I was with my boyfriend before that for 9 months before we slept together as well.

And the one I went out with afterwards I did sleep with afer 2 months, but 13 years later we are married with 2 kids!

Does that help?

surely the point is your advice was wise whether they are or not.

Friend's mum would be far better talking about protection with her dd before the act than after.

Serious boyfriend = time for serious talk.

Another one here - started seeing DH just before my 16th (he was 18) It was nearly a year before we slept together.

i read that over 50% 17 yr olds still virgins
i would say depends on socio economic factors etc etc

i know a few that deffo are not and in lower 6

Its not whether they are but whether they have proper information.
ask outright offer info and hope they stay safe and do not ruin their lives.