Teen sons friend

[Natashatiff86]

So my 14 year old sons friend went through my sex toys. I found out as something was moved in my room. How should I feel?? My partners is fuming and never wants him in the house again. He is my sons best friend. Opinions please

Disinfect toys.

He probably did it with your son's permission.

Find out from your son was it him, was it him and his mate or just the mate.

I'll be surprised if he went through it on his own.

I have had a serious chat with him. My son was outside on his skates and his friend went in my room to watch him out tge window apparently. The toys were in a bag in my wardrobe and my straightners had been moved into the bag. My son knew nothing about it and his friend said he moved them so grey didn't get broken.

Your son will have noticed them and told him to look.

Or it was your son and he's blaming his friend.

I would wait and see if anything was ever said again, and id also secure your room. If your son gets mocked for this then id deal with it differently than if nothing was ever said. It depends what sort of kid he is I guess and how meaningful their friendship is

His friends didn't randomly go in your wardrobe while looking out your window to watch your son on his skates. That just didn't happen. They probably looked at them together or your son at least told him they were there.

Clearly a joint enterprise. How old are they? Assuming quite young if he's out on skates. A word with your son about snooping and privacy, and find a better hiding place.

When I was at school there was a stage where boys (mainly) would look for their friends mum’s sex toys. They’d usually take photos or come down brandishing them at parties .

Your son may be lying, or his friend could be using this to mock him. Whatever the truth is, I wouldn’t have him back in the house.

Your DP is right, I'd never let them in the house again after such a serious breach of trust. What was he even doing there, looking for money or valuables to steal?

Gosh I remember being a teen (14-15) and having sleepovers at my friends house. She knew where her mums stash of sex toys were and we used to have a look and absolutely die laughing. Your son 100% knows where they are and showed/told his friend.

Maybe hide them in a better place....

Yeah, your son told him where they were.

He didn't just guess they where there.
They made the story of '' you go pretend to watch me from the window and you can look at the things I found...in the house I live in'' this happens..a lot.