I'm so bored!

[thinlyv]

This Xmas holiday is boring me to tears. DS 12. DD14.. they aren't the most sociable so have only seen their friends once. DH too is happy to just sit round the house all day. But we're all fed up with each others company too! Over the whole Xmas holiday (from 17th Dec) we have had the odd dog walk, 1 lunch out, 1 day into London & inlaws here for Xmas day.. couple of plans cancelled due to covid.. nothing planned for NYE. My DH used to be sociable but as a recovering alcoholic, he is not comfortable socialising much these days.. (I wouldn't wish him back to how he was so guess I can't complain there).. most of our friends have moved away over the years or drifted off as we became 'the boring non-drinkers) & I just feel ugh, is this it.. kids are getting older & we have space in our lives for more now but there's nothing. I don't really know why I'm posting beyond to just get it off my chest. I'm sure I'm not alone. This is not the life I thought I'd have at this stage when we started our married life together.

Hello @thinlyv - I think this may do better in AIBU or chat as it's not actually about teenagers.

re your question, I get a lot of my social stimulation, meaning and growth from volunteering for good causes. Maybe you already do this and you were talking about something different though.

@thinlyv

This Xmas holiday is boring me to tears. DS 12. DD14.. they aren't the most sociable so have only seen their friends once. DH too is happy to just sit round the house all day. But we're all fed up with each others company too! Over the whole Xmas holiday (from 17th Dec) we have had the odd dog walk, 1 lunch out, 1 day into London & inlaws here for Xmas day.. couple of plans cancelled due to covid.. nothing planned for NYE. My DH used to be sociable but as a recovering alcoholic, he is not comfortable socialising much these days.. (I wouldn't wish him back to how he was so guess I can't complain there).. most of our friends have moved away over the years or drifted off as we became 'the boring non-drinkers) & I just feel ugh, is this it.. kids are getting older & we have space in our lives for more now but there's nothing. I don't really know why I'm posting beyond to just get it off my chest. I'm sure I'm not alone. This is not the life I thought I'd have at this stage when we started our married life together.

Hi OP

My DH is also a recovering alcoholic, 5 years sober, and I totally get the frustration at lack of ability to socialise. Dh will attend social outings but I often think he feels out of place and can't join in the same. Like you though, I'd rather him this way.

Guess I have nothing to add just wanted you to know you're not alone.

Our DC are all 12+ so not the most social bunch either