My dad is 14. She was badly bullied in year 7 and this has affected her going to school. She was classed as a school refuser and wanted to be home schooled. I didn’t agree however I agreed that she could present some research of how it would benefit her. My ex husband point blank refused to engage and told her school is just something you have to get through. She is under CAHMS and has a working diagnosis of agoraphobia and emetaphobia (fear of being sick) she has been struggling to deal with her mental health and sometimes cannot leave the house. Having said that she has made good progress. Her dad says it’s all in her head and she needs to stop being lazy. This amongst other things has led her to stop engaging with him. I have tried to mend their relationship even taking her to his on bad days and sitting outside so she has a change of scenery. She recently had therapy and she has decided that she doesn’t want him as part of her journey and he doesn’t make an effort to understand. Her younger sister is devastated and is trying to repair their relationship. I feel some guilt as I want her to have a good relationship with him but for some reason they just don’t gel.
I don’t want her to regret her decision but I also see the stress she goes through when she has to make contact. Has anyone got any wise words of wisdom?