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Teenagers

Parenting teenagers has its ups and downs. Get advice from Mumsnetters here.

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He has no respect

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TomAllenWife · 22/12/2021 07:50

Yesterday I worked my regular job 8-4pm the vaccinated 4.30-8pm

My DS (16) is on hols from college, woke up at 1pm and I don't begrudge that.

But at 10.30pm he went on his PS and started talking and shouting with his mates. I asked him to turn it off, he said he was just finishing the game. 20 mins later it was still going on.
He then refused to come off and said 'I told you I'd keep playing if you keep shouting at me'.
Eventually I went in his room and removed the PlayStation, he said 'don't you dare' and 'I'm just gonna talk to my friends even louder'

I was so upset and crying from sheer exhaustion. I have another 12 hours work today

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MrsPelligrinoPetrichor · 22/12/2021 07:54

Urghhhh I get it

The thing is teens come to life just as we're going to bed and they're so bloody noisy on those games.

Any way you can use ear plugs ,would that help alongside him keeping it down a bit?

IAmSantaOhYesIAm · 22/12/2021 07:58

Total lack of respect! Teenagers are like toddlers and only think of themselves, the works revolves around them and their friends are more important than their family.
Is he usually like this or is this a one off? Do you usually have a good relationship with him? Can you sit down with him and lay out some ground rules? Quite after 11 for example? Or do you need to turn the WiFi off after a certain time?

Looneytune253 · 22/12/2021 08:00

Don't argue just turn off the internet/power

Looneytune253 · 22/12/2021 08:01

I know you shouldn't have to, but at night when you just want sleep, if he doesn't do it when asked just turn off the power in his room.

GrumpyLivesInMyHouseNow · 22/12/2021 08:16

The vast majority of teenagers are selfish, I was one of them. Don't engage, ask him once the turn the power off, Internet whatever you have to do

itsjustnotok · 22/12/2021 08:20

@MrsPelligrinoPetrichor no way!!!! He’s 16 and been bloody disrespectful to his mum! Get some earplugs?! He’s throwing a hissy fit cos he’s not getting his own way. No wonder the majority of the teens I work with have no work ethic and ring their parents the minute they disagree with a job they’ve been asked to do! It’s because they get what they want.

HappyGreen · 22/12/2021 08:20

Can you just wear earplugs? My ds is often up later than me chatting to friends (not shouting mind) so I wear earplugs. Helps with the neighbour noise and the cat being a pest too!

U8976532 · 22/12/2021 08:43

You could take @MrsPelligrinoPetrichor or you could parent the child and teach him some respect. If he can't keep it down, the console goes off, if he's such a child that he can't be trusted to do that, you find a way to do it for him.

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TomAllenWife · 22/12/2021 08:49

I did take it off him, but he was so rude and defiant saying 'well now I'm just going to shout on my phone'

I'm thinking about bursting into his room talking on my phone or hoovering

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TomAllenWife · 22/12/2021 08:50

I'm wondering if he should live with exh for a while because I have no control here clearly.
He's taller and bigger than me

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MrsPelligrinoPetrichor · 22/12/2021 10:29

@U8976532

You could take *@MrsPelligrinoPetrichor* or you could parent the child and teach him some respect. If he can't keep it down, the console goes off, if he's such a child that he can't be trusted to do that, you find a way to do it for him.

OR you could try and find a compromise so everyone in the house is happy.

MrsPelligrinoPetrichor · 22/12/2021 10:39

@TomAllenWife

I'm wondering if he should live with exh for a while because I have no control here clearly. He's taller and bigger than me

Unless there's a massive back story here that's a huge over reaction.

He's a thoughtless, rude teen , clamping down hard for minor offences is likely to result in a battle. Talk to him calmly, buy ear plugs, tell him to keep it down after 11. Remember what it was like to be a teen.

Coronawireless · 22/12/2021 10:42

I don’t think it’s a huge overreaction.
His mum works hard - she’s not asking him to be quiet for no reason. He’s a rude, entitled little shit and will go on to be an arsehole as an adult unless OP gets firm.

MrsPelligrinoPetrichor · 22/12/2021 12:28

@Coronawireless

I don’t think it’s a huge overreaction. His mum works hard - she’s not asking him to be quiet for no reason. He’s a rude, entitled little shit and will go on to be an arsehole as an adult unless OP gets firm.

It's a huge reaction IF this a one off to go and make him live at his dad's.

NoCrunchyMum · 29/12/2021 18:58

I've been staggered by how my teens react, their "take" on what I do or don't do for them, I've come to the conclusion that yes, they are two year olds in an adult body.

I hear you. Its upsetting and depressing. Just had a huge row with mine as I was advising him on something legal ( my actual background!)...I'm the worst parent,I'm so negative, I treat him like an idiot...... No answers I'm afraid.

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