Youngest teen son does not engage and wants to sit in the room online all the time

[Lolabray]

I am finding it stressful and his attitude upsetting, he doesn’t want to talk to anyone but his friends and locks him self away in his room. He barely leaves it and tells me to F off if I tell him to keep his voice down.

I’ve had a word tonight but he has an attitude problem and talks down to me (which I do not engage in).

I know teens don’t always realise what they do or say and am aware of their brains developing and changing however I find it upsetting he doesn’t want to engage or do anything with the family. (To think of it nor did I at that age)

How old?

What is he doing online?

Can you not just switch off the wifi if he is on there too much or is rude to you? If my DS told me to fuck off I would be getting pretty heavy I think.

What is his dad doing, is he around and can he help?

Sorry, I was like Jeremy Paxman there! Have a too

His dad isn’t around and he can get mouthy and squares up to me. He’s bigger than me too and weighs probably 6 stone more. He’s 16

I'd change the wifi password. I have a son this age - and there's no way I'd be told to 'fuck off' without there being severe consequences.

Loss of wifi would seem the logical thing. (Google it - it's easy enough)

@Lolabray

His dad isn’t around and he can get mouthy and squares up to me. He’s bigger than me too and weighs probably 6 stone more. He’s 16

This sounds quite serious. I think you need to lay down the law some how. Do you have any support?

Sorry you are dealing with this.

@rrhuth I have had on and off support over the years from school and family support. He’s doing really well at school but has little respect for me or his siblings. I think I may put a call in for some help tomorrow

And the changing the WiFi password is a great idea I may have a think about that and also thinking of turning it off for the day and taking him out

If it's any help, OP I find that my DS is MUCH nicer when he isn't gaming. He's irritable, shouty and short tempered when on an Xbox and is actually a fairly decent human being if you get him off the damn thing.

Hopefully yours will be too.

I’m sorry you’re going through this.
He sounds like he’s bullying you. DV is never good.

If it was a man telling you to F off and searing up to you we’d all be telling you to ltb.

You do need some support. He has to learn how to treat women.

I hope you get some help tomorrow op

But how do you get them off the x box?!