Me, all the time. I suppose this is a bit of AIBU but wasn't really sure where to post it.
I'll start by saying we live in a really rough area. I've lived here all my life but it's been much worse for about 10 years. Knife crime, muggings, attempted kidnapping of young children and teenage girls, we've had a few shootings too in recent years.
I didn't realise that on certain days dd goes out much earlier to college when it's still dark in the winter. (I have health problems which mean i'm in constant pain and can't work at present so i'm often still asleep when she goes out).
She hadn't told me, probably because she knew i'd worry.
There's nothing I can do about it. I can't drive and I cant walk as far as the bus stop, my mobility is really limited.
I did take measures to keep her as safe as I could as soon as she started going to college. I bought her a keyring type alarm, I made her carry a handbag type mini hairspray. She texts a male friend every morning when she goes out of the house, when she's at the bus stop and again when she gets on the bus. From when she was very young I encouraged her to take self defence classes so she does know the basics. She refuses to put any safety apps on her phone, laughs it off and says I worry too much.
But I was assaulted on my own doorstep once by a complete stranger, in my 30s, at 7.30pm on a winter night so i'm not being over the top, it can and does happen around here.
I know I can't control her life, she's 18 and as a woman she's always going to be more vulnerable whether we like it or not, that's the way it is. I worry i'm not keeping her safe enough but realistically I don't know what else I can do. She isn't stupid, she knows the dangers, she's clued up on drink spiking etc (although doesn't go to pubs yet).
Still I worry if i've done enough to keep her safe without suffocating her.