I am very happy with what I consider to be the violent harassment of my DS and the way the school has dealt with it.
It started in a sports lesson and the boy was kicking my DS constantly throughout the lesson. The boy started to ridicule my son about a very sensitive subject and so my son said something back that would hurt. Then the boy played victim.
Since then the boy has tried to physically attack my son on a further 4 occasions. The head of behaviour told my DS to stay out of his way which my tried to do.
It finally came to a head when this boy slat on the floor, threw his bag down and again went up to my son. He has threatened to kill my DS (on a different occasion) and all sorts. He was calling him a cunt and threatening him and went up to him nose to nose to intimidate him.
Some of my sons friends protected my son by trying to pull the boy away. The boy who dragged the troublemaker away got hit and a fight started. Then he hit another boy.
There was a teacher witnessing all this. My son inflamed the situation when the boy was told to go by shouting something out at him. The teacher had told my son to go in the other direction and my son had refused namely because he was in a hut that the boy couldn't attack him in and my sons friends were there acting as a shield in a way. I would not have wanted to leave either if I felt safe there.
My son got in trouble for defying the teacher. I think my son was wrong to shout something after the boy when he was leaving but that's it really, I don't blame him for not leaving himself wide open to another physical attack. The boy was verbally abusing and swearing at him too.
When my son was called in for this incident, the behaviour lead told my son that he didn't care that my son had done what he had said, and tried to stay out of this violent boy's way. He said it had come to this today and that's all he cared about.
His head of year called me up and told me that my son was getting punished but she had all the story back to front and was commiserating with the violent boy. She said she had spoken to my son about joint enterprise and how he would get in trouble for being there. I find this ridiculous a violent boy confronted my son to fight him and verbally abuse him spitting on the floor. My sons friend tried to pull the boy away so my son would be attacked and ended up getting hit. Then it happened to another boy who was protecting my DS.
It sounds like self defence to me.
She also said my son was swearing and he absolutely wasn't.
I do not like how this has been handled. My son was being harassed violently and it came to a head when the boy tried a fourth time but was shut down by people protecting my DS.
I confronted my son and he was so so upset and broke down and said that he is so frustrated that he did what the teachers said and stayed out of this boys way and they said they did not care. I feel this is bullying. I do not like the way this behaviour lead spoke with such disrespect and lack of empathy to my son. I also do not like the way my son has been lied about and accused of swearing.
I want to make a complaint. This would be the first time I have ever made a complaint in a school.
I am not happy with the threat to kill either. This boy had also attacked to other boys not part of my sons friendship group.
What is the best way to handle this (I admit I am not very good at speaking up and complaining), and who would be your first port of call to complain to?