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Worried all the time. Can’t take anymore stress

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Mariee78 · 07/12/2021 20:53

I have a 15 dd who in April this year overdosed because of an online relationship breakup. I had no idea. She spends her life in her room and refuses to spend anytime with the family. She says she hates my partner which has broken our relationship to pieces now and we argue constantly. I feel so alone. I’m not a happy person anymore as all I do is worry about her. I don’t know if I can carry on feeling this way. I’m exhausted. I love her so much and can’t lose her. It would kill me. When she overdosed she told the crisis team it was the second time she had done it. I was completely distraught. She damaged her liver pretty bad and spent 4 days in hospital. We’ve had services involved but she refuses any help. Says she doesn’t want any medication as it might make her feel more depressed. I just miss my little girl so much. My relationship is in pieces but I can’t leave as I’m a stay at home mum and have nowhere to go and he won’t leave. I just wanna scream all the time. I feel like no one really knows how much I’m struggling. I’m so depressed I can’t see how I can help my dd when I feel so low also. Please tell me it will get better. I can’t take anymore.

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FortunesFave · 07/12/2021 21:07

Why is your relationship in pieces? What's going on there? Is there arguing and shouting going on? If so, it's part of the problem with your DD...why does she hate your partner?

This seems to be the crux of her issues....and I know you say you can't leave as you're a stay at home mum but maybe you just can't be one anymore?

What's your housing situation? Owned or rented? Is he abusive? Answer honestly now OP....does he shout? Are you scared of him?

nimbuscloud · 07/12/2021 21:11

This is the man who called her a wanker?
No wonder she hates him
Whose house are you living in?

Etinoxaurus · 07/12/2021 21:15

Who owns the house or is on the tenancy.
Forget about the relationship, you need to focus on your daughter and get him out.

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Mariee78 · 07/12/2021 21:17

Yeah we shout a lot. It’s a bad environment for the kids. She hates him because he tends to overreact in certain situations with her and she is a very sensitive girl. She doesn’t respond well to his reactions. We rent a house from his parents. No he isn’t abusive but we can’t communicate well at all. I’m at breaking point so every little thing gets blown up. It’s horrible.

Yes he is the one who called her a wanker (hand gesture) when she left one night.

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nimbuscloud · 07/12/2021 21:33

Can she go to live with her father ?

MatildaIThink · 07/12/2021 21:36

It seems like you need to get your unstable and potentially abusive partner out of your daughters life.

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Mariee78 · 07/12/2021 21:38

I have asked her for if she would want too but she doesn’t. She has an older sibling with her dad who she gets on with well. It may have to come to that though till I can sort myself out.

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Mariee78 · 07/12/2021 21:38

I agree. I need to get myself a job and change my life

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blueshoes · 07/12/2021 21:40

Let her go and work on sorting yourself out and getting rid of your partner. It is a toxic environment for her to be in when she is so vulnerable. You also need the space for yourself and to find your strength.

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