Ds refusing to had weed over what do I do?

[Meltinthemiddle]

His bedroom stinks of weed plus spray and he's come in and is upstairs with his gf. I e asked him to hand it over as do not want drugs in my house he says he doesn't have any but tried to tackle dh when he went to get his bag. What do I do? I'm so upset and fed up with him using this house as hotel. I don't even like him any more he's not the same boy I've raised 😔. It seems to be constant and I think his gf must be paying for it.

@NeedsCharging

Of course you have Melt teenagers can be difficult. I dont think smoking weed is the end of the world my own teen DSs went through this phase. I wouldn't allow it to be smoked in the house or garden and I didn't fund it. If DS was disrespectful then the Internet password was changed and any extras I paid for such as the mobile was cancelled. It's not easy

My worry with the weed is his mental health isn't great anyway and its becoming a regular habit I don't want him using it to medicate. If it was just the odd one and experimenting then fine but you know your child don't you and I feel it could end up badly for him.

Read about addictive personality. Most teens go through a stage of experimenting, but a minority have addictive personality disorder and, although it is an uphill battle, it is worth trying to get whatever help you can as early as you can. There is an organisation called DrugFam that can offer advice and support.
I wish you all the best. I know how desperate you feel.