Am I being too controlling

[twoblueskies]

Thoughts please

My DD met a boy online , he came to our house and we got to know him . They finished after 2 months after I found photos on her phone suggesting they were in a sexual relationship. Afterwards I found out she had stolen on a trip into town and another parent told me she had posted on Instagram about breaking and entering while out with him . He has been banned from the shopping centre this week for a year .

She always liked his mate who seems different I warned her that when her x found out he would make his mates life hell . Despite my warning they a have been chatting under different names . They arranged to meet this week , however the x found out and warned him off so it's not happening .

She is feeling the pain and says I'm too involved by wanting to know who she is hanging out with , where they live and what they are planning . But I don't trust her now .

How old is she? 13? 19?

Just 14

I must admit my mum wld never have known the majority of what you've said!

14 is still quite young so regardless of her not wanting u to know stuff well she's just not very gd at hiding it so tough!

In your shoes I wld be the same.

YANBU to want to keep her safe.
However you know much more about your 14 year olds' life than I do about mine.
I would say we were close, and I know his friends well, however I was only saying to my husband earlier that we would be the last people to know if he had a girlfriend.
That she tells you where she is going and who with is reasonable, but it is also reasonable at 14 to have some privacy with regard to relationships.