1st boyfriend help

[Ladyof]

My daughter has got her 1st proper boyfriend and I don't know how to deal. She is 15 and a half, any ideas. What do you or don't you allow? I've not met him yet but she has met his mum briefly.

It is frightening and I don't like it 😕

You’ll get used to it

Been there done that

Invite him over, make sure it’s a relaxed evening (I spent most of it in the kitchen, they ate pizza in the living room)

I think the key is to be open and welcoming, not forcing them into lies and secrets iyswim

It’s terrifying isn’t it. My DD is 14.5 and has had her year older boyfriend for almost 6 months now!
I allow them in her room popping in and out. He’s been round lots and she’s been there. They tend to go on one ‘proper’ date a week and then just hang out watching tv at other times. It’s all very relaxed.

Do you get them to leave the bedroom door open?
How do you know what they are up to at his house? I don't know if his parents are on the same page. Oh I hate it lol

No I do let them shut the door. I pop in and out occasionally and potter upstairs.
I’ve talked to my daughter lots about sex, consent, her age etc. and she really isn’t ready for anything physical and is quite assertive about that!
I have a phone number for his mum but haven’t used it. I can’t be sure his parents are on the same page but I just have to hope that she’ll make the right decisions for her.
Some people might say I’m naive but I’ve got to trust her at some point.