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18 year Mental Health & police

7 replies

Mum7b · 28/11/2021 07:47

so I am looking for some advice if possible,

our eldest son 18 has a history of MH issues depression and anxiety and was on medication to help manage this he was doing really well mood wise. The Drs were happy with his progress so no need for further therapy at the moment. So he received some news that a good friend of his had a bereavement in the family ( death is a trigger for his mood to drop as he never dealt with his man passing away who he was very close too) He became very argumentative and just wanted to argue so I told him to go for a walk and calm down but he was just shouting really nasty things ot was like he was a different person. So he left for a walk and said he wouldn't be coming back we took this to mean he was going to his Grandad's who lives near by. I then get a phone call from his boss to say he had a call from our son he worried as he sounded very distressed so we rang the police to look for him while the police were looking for him he returned home with his cousin and friends. He has been referred for a MH assessment and the police are sending a report to his go which is great as anything to help him get a really good plan in place to help will be so appreciated. The police asked the names dob and schools of our other children is that normal ? I am now feeling like the worst mum in the world don't know what to do

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FortunesFave · 28/11/2021 08:09

It is normal for them to ask about his siblings yes. Because he's an adult and has MH problems it potentially puts his siblings at risk basically.

I'm sorry you're all going through this OPx

Mum7b · 28/11/2021 08:19

Thanks for the reply, I am panicking my other kids will be taken off me now. I gave all there details but they are homeschooled. I am worrying they will come and take the boys, is it just procedure to have the info on record.

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Blueuggboots · 28/11/2021 08:20

They absolutely won't take your children away!!!

EverythingsComingUpRoses · 28/11/2021 08:23

It's just safeguarding procedure -police contact schools when they have attended incidents

I'm not sure how it will work for homeschooled children, probably someone from the LA will be in touch

This happened to my family after an incident with my BIL -phone call where I explained how I was keeping my children safe and that was the end of it

Mum7b · 29/11/2021 00:39

Thank you for replies, it does help to reassure me.

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DoucheCanoe · 29/11/2021 00:50

Totally normal and you're not a bad Mum at all!

We've had police or a few times due to my teens MH, he hasn't harmed anyone but himself but they still ask for our and or other DC's name/dob and school.

The information is held on file and shared amongst the professionals involved in their care e.g. school, gp.

These reports have given us access to support workers and social workers who have been a great help. They're primary purpose is to help families in crisis, not separate them!

Mum7b · 30/11/2021 08:33

Thank you so much for your reply @DoucheCanoe.

It makes sense I just really panicked, I thinks the bous are home schooled I thought oh gosh who can they ask.

We have never had any dealing switch outside agencies. So it really triggered my anxiety x

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