Hi There
I have asked a couple of questions throughou the years re my daughter who is now 17. She has had her up's and downs with depression ( never diagnosed) but we seemed to have muddled on through and thought " well thank God that is over"
I may be outing myself here but at this stage I don't care as I really need some advice. And cannot seem to get much help anywhere. trying to get an appointment thoguht the doctor is nearly impossible.
She has always been a quiet child with low self esteem etc and so not to drip feed, we have had school issues, her dad issues, friendship issues, boyfrined issues etc etc through the years.
She is a bright kid and always does( well did) well in school but during the summer she got a job and will work every hour God sends so she can save. She has saved €6000 since July. However, this has become the new obsession. Last years obsession was to get 600 points int he LC and go to college and get a degree. We live in Ireland so college usually starts around 17/18 years of age.
So now she is saying she does not want to go to college, she feels she is not good enough to get the points as she is way behind, she has not studied nor done homework since Sept and all she wants to do is go to work. Often working split shifts both Saturday and Sunday. She is exhausted but says that work is her happy place and she does not have to think about life or school etc. She will not listen ti us when e try to tell her that she cannot keep those amount of hours up and still go to school.
Now here is the thing, she has not gone to school for the past two weeks ( we have been to the school and they understand and are being very helpful; sending homework etc but she has not done any of it. She says she feels so guilty about not being in school but cannot bring herself to go.
She has an appointment with a counsellor tomorrow ( which we had to work really hard on getting her to agree to go) and the only way we got this appointment is through a friend of a freind who got us a private counsellor who very kindly has fitted her in.
Doe anyone have any advice as to how we help her through this. Her dad is now on board ( we are separated) so I am thankful for that but my husband just thinks she is being a typical spoilt teenager.