Help and advice getting through these teenage years . My DD is 14 and has started dating a lad . He’s the same age but more streetwise and experienced than her , he’s from a different area but can short bus ride to ours. She was seeing him once a week now it’s two nights and one day at weekend . He’s living with his dad and after a few conversations and a bit of digging around I found that his dad has prev with DV , many relationships and the boy was witness to Dv when younger (6) and no longer sees his mum.
The lad seems nice , easy to talk to and seems to be nice to our DD .
But he seems infatuated with DD , they talk every morning and every night and I hear him saying how quickly he has caught feelings for her scared of losing her and he was v upset when we took her on holiday . He’s also complaining that she may not be around for Christmas. It’s v emotional
I’m not sure if my worry is whether he is so attached because of his chaotic home life or if he is trying to use her by being so charming .
I’m in my 50 and I remember first love but I also remember the ways lads would use skill to get sex .
I’ve seen phone messages and when she has complained about me he has told her things like “ remember your mum is watching her little girl grow up and might be finding it hard “ ( true ) “ I wish I could tell her how much you mean to me “ and how he wants to take time to get to know her . They have been dating 6 weeks .
What should I do , I’m talked to her about not having sex too soon ( I think that might be too late ) not spending too much time with him . Enjoying this bit . But he comes with lots of baggage and told her he lost his virginity at 12 but regrets it and has had 7 prev relationships but she’s his longest so far .