On off relationships - likely to work?

[Ladyof]

My DD had been with her bf for 12 months, when he suddenly ended the relationship saying he no longer fancied her. She was distraught, with a lot of support she grew stronger and seemed to be getting over him.

He was meeting another girl and seeming to rub my dd's face in it and spreading rumours about other lads fancying my dd etc.

I was shocked as I thought he was a lovely lad and didn't think he would behave like this. Fast forward a few weeks he has been back in touch and I suspect he is trying to worm his way back in. She clearly still adores him, I want her to tell him to jog on but it is obviously her decision at the end of the day.

My question is has anyone had experience of this and is it likely to be ok or end in tears again? She was so sad last time and it was awful picking up the pieces.

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How old is AHW?

*she?

She is nearly 16

Sounds like the type of boy you need to warn her off or she'll learn to be a doormat if she takes him back.

I'd be having a conversation with her about not letting anyone treat you poorly and how you should have enough confidence in yourself that once a person has shown their true colours you should walk away.

I agree with @JazzyBBG that she shouldn't learn to be a doormat. Too often girls accept piss poor treatment from boys in their teens because they are desperate to be with them and then grow up to be women who tolerate being treated badly. (I speak as someone who did exactly this when younger)

We need to teach our daughters to firmly insist on being treated with respect at least! And not to let immature wankers break their hearts!

Thank you. This was exactly what I was thinking but then thought am I being too harsh and do I need to leave her to it.

Tbh it'd a learning curve. Dated a test aged 14 til 15 similar to this. Anyways it gave me dick head warning bells. Never went with a dickhead again

That is good to know then, he might have prepared her not to put up with nobheads in the future haha