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Advice on moving y10 to different area and school in these circumstances

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NetflixCompleted · 04/11/2021 11:34

Looking for advice as trying to see what would be best for y10 son.
Son has autism but no EHCP as not classed as having severe difficulties as he is academic but his difficulties are with friendships etc.
School hasn't been great with his needs and he tends to get forgotten about as he is well behaved usually. School doesn't really offer much support for him.

He has recently become friends with some lads who aren't really a good influence. Son seems to be copying their behaviour and has become rude at home but for the first time he has friends.

We had been waiting to move up north and have been offered a house but it won't be ready till January. This would mean moving him in year 10 which I never would consider but the area we live in is awful. It is getting more and more rough, it worries me the amount of kids getting involved in crime locally.

Area has also been given the go ahead to build 3000 more homes in a very busy area anyway with traffic which will be unbearable as it's bad now. Cuts to services mean there is no support groups for teens with autism. It's all tailored to young children.

We are very luckily been offered a housing association house but moving up north they don't do one of his choices he has chosen here at school so he will have to pick something else. This really isn't good at all.
The area we would be moving to though is near beaches and open space which son will love and would definitely benefit from.
The area also has less traffic and less crime although I know you get crime everywhere. We would also be moving closer to partners family who have a son his age so would have someone he knows in the area his age.

What would people do?

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Cattitudes · 04/11/2021 11:41

I generally wouldn't move a child in yr10 but it does sound as if it would be a positive move. Is there anyone in the family who would be able to accommodate him earlier so he could move up and start before Christmas?

Flowersintheattic2021 · 04/11/2021 21:16

What area up north. ? Should be OK in y10 as its last 2 core years.

NetflixCompleted · 04/11/2021 22:53

Northumberland area

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Hellocatshome · 04/11/2021 22:59

If he is used to living in a busy environment and all the leisure activities, shops, restaurants, opportunities that brings you may find he won't enjoy many areas of Northumberland a lot of them are home to a lot of very bored teenagers.

NetflixCompleted · 04/11/2021 23:11

He loves the outdoors and he isn't one for shops. Finding clubs might be bit harder though so looking into what things teens do in the area

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TeenMinusTests · 06/11/2021 11:13

There may be more disruption to the GCSEs than you realise:

  • option blocks / timetabling may mean he can't do preferred combination, even if they are offered
  • school may do different boards for some subjects which could mean different syllabus
  • schools may teach in a different order, so he may do some topics twice and some not at all
  • some schools start at least some subjects in y9 which may mean more missed

That said, if he is academic and other factors are better it could still be better overall. The sooner you do it the better.

TwigTheWonderKid · 06/11/2021 11:51

Could you speak to the school he wil be transferring to to find out what support they will offer him and to check exam boards and syllabus are the same or similar to what he is currently doing.

What does your son think about the move?

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