Support thread for those with high conflict teens

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Just wondered if anyone else wanted a safe space to vent about teenagers who are "challenging".

It's so hard to talk to people in the outside world as they either think you're a terrible parent or suggest things that just don't work for teenagers with a tendency to rebelling against all sanctions...

Mine's currently dodging school so all internet has been banned. I'm dreading going home tonight!

@50ShadesOfCatholic "Jesus OP that business of him ripping the sheets off your bed and emptying your drawers is appalling. Let's call it what it is, abuse. You cannot on any level condone this, he needs fast and severe consequences"
I'm sure OP is more than aware of that.

My DD is challenging too. Good at school but home life is truly miserable. I'm finally doing a parenting course for people with violent teens and its strangely comforting to chat with other parents who have been attacked while driving, hide sharp objects and are used to having the clothes airer chucked down the stairs.
The police are involved after she went AWOL the other week which seems to have kicked school up the backside to actually help her.

Didn't do quotations properly
Anyway suffice to say OP I'm sure you didn't find it acceptable

[quote Monty27]@50ShadesOfCatholic "Jesus OP that business of him ripping the sheets off your bed and emptying your drawers is appalling. Let's call it what it is, abuse. You cannot on any level condone this, he needs fast and severe consequences"
I'm sure OP is more than aware of that.[/quote]
Really? I got the exact impression she was not aware at all, that she considers it difficult and xhallenginybut no where has she said she recognises it as abuse -
which is illegal. Let's not mince words, abusive teens become abusive adults.

@Monty27

Didn't do quotations properly Anyway suffice to say OP I'm sure you didn't find it acceptable

No you didn't and nor did I use the word acceptable, I said abuse. Abuse. Abuse. Abuse. Her son is an abuser. She does not recognise this. You are mincing words. People like you enable abusers. Enablement. Read up on it.

I can feel your pain

Dd has some
Mental health issues which she is doing CBT for

Everyday is a fine line of jumping between relaxing supporting and nagging with a crumb of fun occasionally

Plus she is in gcse year

I'm Exhausted by it Not helped by dh who has a quick temper and is very very like dd.

The rudeness stropps and mood swings are reminiscent of her as a toddler and she was a very very hard toddler.

I am praying at some point we will see a pretty decent human 90% soon rather than 10%!now.

@50ShadesOfCatholic
Point taken. I won't lie my DS and I were high conflict at times.
It's facing up to the truth really.
You are right.

I need this thread. My almost 16 year old is generally absolutely horrid.

I tested positive for covid last week, her behaviour was vile, constantly screaming at me that I was going to ruin her weekend away and being utterly awful. Wouldn’t even offer me a cup of tea. She went to stay with her father, sending two texts in eleven days.

She returned home this morning and immediately started ranting again, reckoned she didn’t have time to move the pile of bags in the hallway when she clearly did as it was a good 30 mins before she leaves for school. Small hall and my cleaner is coming today.

I actually told her that her behaviour was abusive and it needed to stop right now because I wasn’t prepared to carry on with it.

It isn’t just me, my family have observed her behaviour towards me when she doesn’t think they are looking. She doesn’t behave like it with anyone else, it is a choice.

Bloody grim being a single parent to a difficult teen, I can’t wait for her to leave home tbh which isn’t something I ever thought I would say but it is true.