For example. DS has to self isolate this week so I asked him what he wants in for his lunches. He picks some salad and chicken. DD asks if she can have some Doritos and I say no because that's not the same thing. That's a snack which she has pocket money for.
She had to isolate last week and we had various lunches in because it was half term. She thinks that's not fair and she didn't get anything special for lunch when she had Covid.
She then goes ballistic because DS is getting nice things and she isn't.
Apparently I'm mean to her and not to DS.
To be fair, DS is less trouble and I do have to tell DD off more often. I rarely have to ask DS to bring crockery down from his room whereas DD will let milk fester in glasses for days before I eventually venture in there and retrieve it. Banning milk from her room hasn't worked. This morning I had three glasses of stinky gone off milk to get rid of so I told her off and made her sort it out in the hope that she won't leave them next time. I'm thinking the two things in one day have made her see red.
I can't treat them equally if they don't act the same way though can I!
How do I handle this with Dd? So far I haven't handled it well as telling her she is being ridiculous has obviously not worked and made her go into a strop. I don't think I need to apologise but how should I handle it?