He has been behaving fairly appallingly recently (parties when we were away, lying, running up debt, totally disrespectful attitude to both of us, bordering on the aggressive with me). He is 19 in January.
His dad sent him an email(he was away) to say that if he didn't change his attitude he would have to move out. Since then he has stayed in his bedroom but not apologised. His dad has been back since Friday and has yet to speak to him as is waiting for an apology.
The final straw was today when dp opened a bank letter for dss because there had been messages from the bank on the house phone for him and he lied about them so he was suspicious.
It said that he had run up 130 quid(despite having no overdraft and no credit card) and that it was with the collections dept and that if it wasn't paid in two days he would have bad credit or that proceedings would start against him.
So he came in and I just told him how utterly dissappointed in him we both were
He has been behaving as if he is a fecking trustafarian with a full domestic staff ffs, whilst we are working are backsides off. His attitude and the way he speaks to me in my own home is dreadful. and before anyone has a go at me for not treating him well, I have been a constant emotional and caring supporter of him for the past four and a half years. I have been 150% more of a mother to him than his own mother has. I have put up with a lot and given him all the love I have had.
But I draw the line at being spoken to as if I am shit.
So his first reaction is to be a total coward and run off to his gm. which is what I told him. I have just given him the most truthful and heartfelt lecture I could. I love him very much but he is not being allowed to develop into a spineless, lying arrogant tosser on my watch.
His dad, for a change, supports me 100 per cent.
I am tired, emotional and very, very upset