Computer boy

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Just concerned about son 13. He’s on the computer or phone all the time. Sometimes with his mates which isn’t so bad, otherwise on his own. I can’t suggest anything else, he just doesn’t want to do anything else . He likes scouts, which, thank goodness is back on occasionally. I’d take him out but I don’t know where. His attitude is, why go anywhere? What’s the point of going to the nearest big city? ( even with his mates)
I actually don’t know what to do. Dp works all the time so it’s always been left to me. We have no family . I get ridiculously jealous of people who take their sons to nans or wherever, it’s all different experiences. And someone else to take the mental load.I was ill when he was younger so I couldn’t take him to many clubs. He hasn’t a bike and says why would he want one.
It’s half term and he’s on his computer all day every day and it just looks so boring. His sister, 16 does loads of stuff.
Also trying to get a business off the ground which is a massive struggle.

Could he possibly have an addiction?

I know it may not appal to you, but if your son is so into computers do you think he enjoys or might enjoy coding? My brother was like your son to an extent when he was that age and he is now in coding. He is 25 and is on a six-figure salary (and has been for a few years). If he is talented at coding I would really encourage it. Large companies will bite your hand off for a talented computer kid

I can’t suggest anything else, he just doesn’t want to do anything else .

But he doesn't always have to be on the computer. You can just say you don't care what he does but the screen time is limited.

Thanks, I’m trying to get him to try coding, which he did for a bit. When I limit screen time he pesters me and I can’t get anything done. I’m trying to freelance and it’s very stressful which means I need him to occupy himself.

Thanks, I’m trying to get him to try coding, which he did for a bit. When I limit screen time he pesters me and I can’t get anything done. I’m trying to freelance and it’s very stressful which means I need him to occupy himself

Can you change the way in which you work do that you have a couple of hours with him in the day?

Would he do things like cook the evening meal for a couple of days during half-term?

No! Now refusing to do anything. He waited for me for half an hour hoping I’d rinse a mug for him as he didn’t know how. 😳 it was all very comically done, but even so. And no I didn’t wash it up!
But yes, I could, but he doesn’t want to do anything, it’s a massive battle to get him to do anything at all. To be fair to him Dp isn’t helping with ,’ we don’t like x do we?’ Grrrr.