Daughters ruling my life

[Jtl31]

Ive got two daughters aged 16 and 12, i split up with their dad 7 years ago, hes with somebody else and has been for a few years now, my girls like her and never been an issue even though this was quick between him and her, ive had a few dates and one relationship and my girls make things so difficult, they dont like me speaking to a man on the phone, even as friends, if i start chatting to somebody they instantly start saying dont want me to get a partner, the relationship i was in was only for 5/6 months, he never did anything wrong to the girls but after a few weeks of meeting him they both started saying didnt want him at house and in their words “get rid” even used to have face on if he came round while they were at their dads for weekend, my girls want for nothing and they have always come first but i feel this is really unfair what they are doing to me, i feel like im not allowed a life, any help on how to deal with this please?

It's a difficult balance, it's understandable that two teenage girls wouldn't want an unrelated Male to move in with them, however you deserve a life too. If you weren't with this last man for long, how did your girls find out he was coming round? Surely they didn't need to know?

He didnt move in and had no intention of that (im a bit set in my ways lol) they would get funny if he called round for a cuppa, i wad with him 5/6 months, they didnt know anything or meet him for the first 3, it was kept quiet. They interrogate me to death when they have been at their dads. I find it hard that im not allowed to do anything and they think its fine me sat on my own whilst they are with their dad at weekends

Have you tried a calm chat when they are in a good mood? Set some boundaries and explain you are entitled to a life of your own - perhaps you could point out that they are going to leave home and you might want to start preparing for that time by having a life outside them.

My own mum didn't date at all after she split with my dad and honestly it's a lifelong regret as after we left home she had then been single so long she was set in her ways. Me and my sister both really wish she had not spent much of her life alone.

I think you may need to just tell them you aren't prepared to be dictated to - that you will respect their feelings in their homebut they need to respect you have a life as an adult.