Am I being over the top?

[EIRA3]

Hi all,
is it me (overprotective) or is this just unacceptable.
My teenage child (A) has had a stern warning and negative points in school from an incident that took place in school.
Teenage A gets pushed and accidentally bumps into teenage B while on break.
Teenage B says fuck off you ginger c**t teenage A then replies shut up you smell fatty.
There were no teacher witnesses.
Later that day lunch, while near each other teenager A was playing with friends and shouts who's farted when teenager B says fuck of ginger and slaps them on the arm. Teenage A just walks away. Again no adult witness!
Now, teenager B goes to the head of year crying saying teenager A has been bullying them. Teenager A gets called out of class has a stern telling off and told they should have never reacted in the first incident and to stay away from teenager B.
Now does it make a difference that teenager A is a boy and teenager B a girl?
If it was the other way around would it have been dealt with differently - can you imagine if my son had slapped the girl?
Or am I just over thinking this?
Hope Iv not confused it, just wanted to start with no gender to see if it made a difference. Im actually fuming, yes he shouldn't have said anything but how had the other teenager not been dealt with the same or worse having hit another child?

I would not take my child's word for it but I would ask for full details from school and explain the other child hit yours.

Yes I have, the comment of the parent platform explains a little but not detailed account of what happened.
But if there were no witnesses appropriate adult u wouldn't take ur child's word for it?

@EIRA3

Yes I have, the comment of the parent platform explains a little but not detailed account of what happened. But if there were no witnesses appropriate adult u wouldn't take ur child's word for it?

I would always be open to the possibility that my child may have 'forgotten' some details?

But how/why have the school decided what happened if no witnesses?

You can make a complaint about your child being hit - have you done that?

Yes I have they said they would find out as the head of year had asked another teacher to sort it out? So they will get back to me Monday.
and yes I agree there may be some details he hasn't mentioned but if there were no appropriate witnesses?
It's not only the fact she hit him, but how would this be seen if he hit her? Or the fact he got upset from her words ( he didn't as he says he used to being called ginger xxxx all the time)

Love how teenager A didn't use any swear worda in retaliation

Should he have? Or maybe he was taken back but what was said and just didn't swear

Whilst I would have a more open mind on my child's actions as they telling the incident from their perspective I do think the incident will be dealt with differently and believe that schools responsive to incidents in more heavy handed in a boy is deemed to be in the wrong than vice versa. I don't believe this is right or helpful as schools should be dealing withe incidents I a fair and transparent manner.